I was referred to this forum by fellow hypno-moms. I am currently living in Brazil and expecting my 3rd child (3rd girl). I am very excited about having another baby in the home. With that said, I am terrified of birthing in this country. It is the highest c-section rate in the world (80% +) and if you end up having a vaginal delivery, it's full of interventions (episiotomies, epidurals, pitocin, they also give you an enema so you don't end up pooping/peeing while in labor or during delivery, and also shave all pubic hair as soon as you get to the hospital, they take your baby for hours to nursery, cut the cord as soon as baby arrives, and take the baby from you as soon as it's born ). They also don't follow a birth plan, all they do is follow the hospital protocol. I have heard so many horror stories from women that felt utterly disrespected during labor and I did not want to be another one.
You CAN get a gentler birth by hiring what they call a "humanized doctor" which doesn't translate very well, but essentially means a doc that believes c-sections are the exception instead of the rule. Needless to say insurance doesn't cover them and they are EXPENSIVE.
With that said, I had a miscarriage before this pregnancy at 10 weeks. It was devastating. I had done an ultrasound 2 weeks prior and I heard the heartbeat, and saw my beautiful baby. Needless to say I am terrified of something going wrong this time around. Hypnobabies is all about drawing the positive, envisioning how you want your birth to be. But I know that I need to be prepared and informed about all my options too so I can have the peace of mind to envision the birth I want. I would never forgive myself if something happened to this baby. It would be too much for me ( I think for any mother)
So do you see where I am coming from? If I ever dare to talk about this to any doctor they will call me flat out crazy, not that I care what they think of me, but if something went wrong I would probably wonder "what if I had birthed in a hospital? would I have prevented this?". I did find a midwife and I have my first appointment with her on thursday. I will discuss all my questions with her too.
All I know is that I need to be at peace to make this decision. My other pregnancies went very smoothly. And actually my last one was quite fast (2 1/2 hours from when contractions were regular until I delivered my baby girl in one big push).
I just want to hear stories, opinions, how you came to your decision and anything you can tell me. I am not afraid of information :)