I need advice from those of you that have children. My friend and sister want to give me a shower, which I've never been very keen on, but it's nice of them. I was thinking of having it after the baby comes, not only so people know if it's a boy or girl to shop, but also because I thought it might be more fun for extended relatives to meet the baby and have that be the center of attention instead of watching me open gifts, typical games etc (which is why I dread attending showers or having one for myself.) My question is this: How soon after the birth is too soon to have it? The folks hosting it were wondering if they could plan to do it 3 weeks after my due date (I'm a first time mom, and my doula says first timers often go past 40 weeks, so it could likely end up being closer to just 2 weeks after the birth I guess.) Were you still insanely out of it a couple weeks after the birth? Do you think bathing and getting dressed up to socialize for a few hours will be torture at that point? I really have no idea!
Also, any suggestions for low-key, non traditional shower activities are welcome. (I don't care for the guessing games or dice games where you win a prize etc.)