Okay, I am on board with the GD method. DH is skeptical. When he was a kid he was spanked. It's just how it works for him. I was spanked too, but I still think it's abuse. I have managed to get him to stop spanking Ella (who is only 3 in a couple of weeks) but now he has taken the, 'well since you know best, obviously YOU should handle them' approach. Which causes me to overstress and I end up yelling at the my children when things get out of hand.
For the record, the spankings he gave my daughter weren't with a belt or anything, just a single open handed pop on a clothed, diapered bum. Still, though, not a desirable punishment.
I don't want to yell. I don't want him to back off and think his only role in the family is to earn money, and help create more children. I think I may have made him feel that way though, and I'm not entirely sure how to fix this situation. He honestly thinks children should be well behaved and should mind their parents, and spankings are a mean to that end. My explanation that the girls are only toddlers doesn't seem to matter though. I tried asking him what he thinks 'well behaved' means and he couldn't really give me an answer.
I feel like we are on two different pages here, and I don't know what to do! How do I get him to understand where I am coming from and how do I understand where he is at? Because at this point, I am all sorts of confused!