Wow wannabeanRN- I'm so sorry you have had such unsupportive friends/family! If you asked me, I'd definately be there and not shy away afterwards, either! I hate for a mom to be without the people she wants during/after birth!
To address the OP's post, with my first baby, I had a very painful recovery from my 4th degree epis. and had minor depression, I hid out in my bedroom for over a week, in the dark with the baby. Visitors came and went and I laid there alone in my dark bedroom. With #2 and #3 I hardly had any visitors :( I wanted visitors so badly! Family came the evening she was born but after that, nothing. I LOVE to have people over and after those two births I felt so good and ready to see people who love me! In fact, when we brought #2 home from the hospital, some family and my best friends were at my apartment and we had Wedgy's pizza delivered and had a tiny party, then my mom and I washed up the dishes. It was just so nice. I see many parents want to be left all alone during and after the birth for a long time but not all of us do.
Off-topic but have any of you ever seen how cows do when one gives birth? I think it's so adorable...they slowly make their way to the new mom and baby, and look them over for a couple of minutes, then walk away. I imagine they are saying, "Congrats, mama! Hello there, little one!"