DH and I mostly speak Russian home. We both speak English (and after so many years in Canada, Russian
) with an accent, and we both consider ourselves fluent in English. Occassionaly we switch to English at home, but it is only maybe 10% of our interactions.
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We also made sure we read in our language to our children, more than in English, especially when they were little. DD9 wasn't interested in having friends until she was 5 years old, and until that age her English was very rudimentary. Now at 9, she speaks English really well, and her Russian is fluent. She reads fluently in both languages.
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DS6.5 became very social at the age of 3.5. His English is very good, but his Russian is already is not as strong as DD's.
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DD3.5 started speaking in English when she was 2--just simple sentences, but she was definitely aware of the two languages. She is exceptionally verbal in Russian, and from time to time will speak in English to her English speaking playmates.
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From my experience, it is very difficult to maintain your first language at home, even without sending a child to shcool. From everything I've seen, the moment a child enters an English speaking school, they stop speaking their first language at home. I've met parents who say that speaking English at home is not an option, and they force their kids to speak their language. Not sure how well this will end.
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The "fight" so to speak, is for your first language. English will be acquired no matter what, with no effort on your part. That's at least, our experience.Â
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Good luck!
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