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I do have a question for those who say to wait until 8 or so to test, what do you do for school until then? Do you just send them to school and hope that the school is sufficient at keeping them entertained? Or do you have an IEP? Or do you homeshool until then? If you send them to school without an IEP, how do you ensure they don't underachieve or get into trouble because they are bored?
Those are all good questions that have kept a lot of parents awake at night.Â
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I do have a question for those who say to wait until 8 or so to test, what do you do for school until then? Do you just send them to school and hope that the school is sufficient at keeping them entertained? Â
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This sounds a little like someone is advocating a "do-nothing" approach, which I haven't seen suggested at all. When you have a child attending school, I think it's important for parents to be involved. That can happen at a fairly informal level, though, and that's often preferable. Formal processes can get unnecessarily complicated, involve extra paperwork and timelines that create delays and unexpected consequences.Â
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An IEP involves a formal process with the school. There can be immense value in going through the process, so I don't think it's futile to attempt it, if that's the path you choose. It provides a framework to consider different aspects of the child's status (academic, emotional, social, behavioural), his/her needs, and how the teacher and the school can provide for those needs. The dialogue, analysis, planning and documentation can be helpful. In the end, though, I sometimes feel like it's an attempt to reduce the art and science of pedagogy to some kind of commercial contract. You can have a wonderfully written descriptive document, but without the applied artistry in the classroom, it may as well be toilet paper.
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The thing is, if you have a gifted-friendly school with experienced and informed educators, an IEP probably won't add much to the experience - other than creating a lot of extra paperwork for the teacher to complete.
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OTOH, especially if the educators don't understand or "believe in" giftedness, the IEP can sometimes be useful. First, as I said earlier, to set out a roadmap for everyone for planning. Second, if it isn't being followed, it provides a formal basis to appeal to principals, school supervisors, school elected officials and so on to obtain the kind of help the student is entitled to get. Â
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Definitely research your school system so that you understand it. It's valuable to know what your child's rights are, what options are available, and what is enforceable, in case you need to employ that information. You may be pleasantly surprised though, that a lot can be accomplished without pursuing the official path.Â
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If you send them to school without an IEP, how do you ensure they don't underachieve or get into trouble because they are bored?
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Well, even with an IEP, you can't ensure that they won't underachieve or get into trouble because they are bored. An IEP won't dictate what kind of attitude a child develops. One disadvantage I've seen with an IEP is that it tends to encourage a kind of "contract" mentality in some parents. The attitude that once the paperwork is signed, it's all up to the educators. Â Really though, there's a responsibility on everyone - educators, parents AND student - to create a healthy, positive educational experience. There's a lot of emotional and social scaffolding that can help a child learn fairly early that they can take a lot of responsibility for a lot of their own learning. Â
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Underachieving and boredom can be big problems, don't get me wrong. If a child isn't engaged at school, then the teachers and parents should be figuring out what isn't working, what is working and how to improve the situation. There are a lot of adjustments and accommodations that can happen without a formal IEP, as long as the school is willing. I guess that brings me back to my original point - the relationship you forge with the educators will be far more important than any kind of official record you create or obtain. Â
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I really don't want to knock the IEP process or gifted assessment and identification. My own dc have benefited from the process and I appreciate that there is an official recognition of giftedness in our school system. It's important to have a broad perspective on what can be achieved within the school system and how to get there, that's all.Â
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