I'm on all these govt websites and can't seem to find what I'm looking for...
I would be the one ending the relationship, and there is no abuse or anything of the sort going on. My partner is a good parent, though easily overwhelmed and generally oblivious to day to day things like meals (they just magically appear, or he thaws a pizza) and laundry (if I'm sick or something, he doesn't even think to wash the diapers, it's just a crisis when there aren't any!). He'd figure it out though, or, rather, his mom would do it, and the kids would be safe.
dd is 2.5 and still breastfeeding, and ds 7 months. I would want "sole" custody (defined as >60%). I've been a SAHM for almost 3 years, and my degree is in a field that would be difficult to get in to. I think I would go back to school, and could finish a second, professional degree in 2-3 years of full-time study. I'd have to find childcare and a job, etc, etc. I don't think he'd even want more than visits with ds at this point, but as he grows that could change.
Do I have to have these things lined up BEFORE I can get sole custody? Am I at a disadvantage since I am not currently employed and my partner is? I know I should talk to a lawyer, but I don't think I'm ready for that step quite yet. Does anyone have a general, vague idea?
I'm not looking to cut my partner out of the kids lives by any stretch of the imagination, but I can scarcely imagine how I would be able to send them off for weekend visits, never mind splitting it 50/50! His parents would go completely nuts demanding custody on his behalf though, and they are very, very well connected here while my family is mostly on another continent and otherwise several provinces away.