So I thought I would put this in my DDC, as my issue may be b/c I am super pregnant and hormonal.
I gave my last son my maiden name as a middle name as I thought it didn't really go well as a first-last name combo (only with my particularly long last married name). I still don't love his first name (Elijah) and we call him Eli, or Li-Li for now as he is still a baby. The idea was to use his middle name as a nickname as he grew older.
My sister just informed me that she wants to name an imagined future child the same name (our maiden name was Fischer and her new husband is a fisherman, so she thinks the name should be hers). I totally don't have a problem with cousins having the same name --we don't live anywhere near each other and will only see each other rarely--, but did make a point to tell her (after she went through a whole speil about how Fischer should be her name b/c of her husband) that we had always intended to call Eli by Fischer, or Fish at some point but planned on doing it when he got older.
This did not go over well, sister is now saying that she is cool with it as long as I make sure "no one else calls Eli by that name" and that "I don't make a family announcement that Fischer is his new name" and therefore try to steal it. I think I already effectively "stole" the name when we named him that long before sister and said fisherman started dating, if that is how she chooses to see it. Nothing was said about it at the time of his birth or in the 2 1/2 years of his life until now.
First of all, we are not mafia and not have family meetings. Secondly, this is already Eli's legal name and a long-standing planned nick-name of sorts and am I crazy or is she being seriously weird about this? Sister is not pregnant nor even currently trying, but has always been "the hormonal one" so I find it hard to talk to her about many things.
What do you guys think? We may never even actually use Fischer as his nick-name, but the fact that she is trying to pressure me into not ever calling him that publicly--when it is already part of his legal name--is crazy right? Also sister may very well never have a boy and the whole argument would be mute, but for now she is rallying all the family to "her side" of an argument I just can't understand. I already had a kid I gave than name to, right?
At this point I keep pointing out that she can see his passport if she wants. Fischer is part of his legal name, doesn't mean she can't use it, I think it would be awesome if she did--and at the same time if she uses the name it doesn't mean than Eli can't either.
Is it really normal for someone else to name their child the same thing you named yours and then try to preempt you from using part of your child's legal name?
Am I really so pregnant that I can't see her side logically?