Is this the newest thread? I hope we can revive this tribe, because I really need some support! I have 8 kiddos, 14 yo ds, 12 yo dd, 9 yo ds, 7 yo ds, 5 yo ds, 3 yo dd, and 6 mo twin dds. DH works full time, with a 1hr commute each way, plus is in school full time. My kids do not see their father from Sunday night until Friday afternoon. It's just me at home. I have no friends in this town. Lots of acquaintances, but no one that I could call up and just chat about my day or grab a cup of coffee with. I'm really introverted and feel forward to try to create that kind of relationship. Plus, this town is one of those types if you aren't from here, you're never from here, ya know? We've lived here 8 years now, and we barely know anyone. I got ahold of a plat map from 150 years ago, and the same names of landholders then are alive and well today. It's really weird and isolating. I had joined a Moms group at one time, but I got tired of being the only one to show up to things, or only one person would show when I hosted. I finally quit because it just made me feel more isolated and lonely. My family all live states away. My dh has relatives fairly close, but the only one of our generation is his brother who is immature with anger management issues and no kids (thank goodness). His mom lives only 15 min and is great about watching the kids when we need it. We try not to abuse that privilege. My dh and I are truly best friends and have a wonderful marriage, thank goodness, cause I think the loneliness otherwise might kill me.
We are planning to try to sell the house and move to the same city dh works in, but I'm trying not to freak out about how to sell a house with 10 people living in it. We have no storage in this house and it's rather a nightmare. I'm considering moving and then putting it on the market empty. We would qualify for rent assistance and we'd probably be able to swing the rent plus mortgage for a few months. There's a realtor who has a sell in 3 mo or we buy your house plan. I don't care how much we sell for. We owe little enough that we should be able to recoup our investment. I just need to get OUT of this town. Plus, we would save money on gas and dh would be home earlier and wouldn't have to leave at the crack of dawn.
I'm really quite happy with our family otherwise. The kids are wonderful for the most part, though I could use some ideas to deal with 12 yo dd. Such a difficult age. Also, my house and the storage problem totally stress me OUT. There are whole rooms I just avoid for perhaps a week at a time because I can't handle the work that needs to be done. The twins keep me up most nights so I am just too exhausted to deal with a lot of housework. Even if I wasn't, I'm nursing constantly. I do have chores that the kids are in charge of so basic things get done. I have a set up where they can earn extra spending money by completing anything on a long list of items, too. I just always feel behind and mortified if someone were to drop by the house. (Just a moment ago, our Principal stopped by to drop off extra venison hot dogs she couldn't eat just as I was typing this. Oy.) I am one who cannot feel relaxed in the midst of chaos, so when it is too bad I retreat to my room, and the kids make it worse. Yikes.
Sorry for the big vent, but I just need somewhere to share my struggles and perhaps brainstorm solutions to the unique challenges of having so many children with such a wide span of ages. I'm also wondering if there are enough people who still are interested in this tribe to perhaps look into a Social Group so we could expand threads on related topics in a useful way and get to know one another better. And I really need some adult conversation!! :)