wondering How to co-sleep with a newborn and toddler

[Rebeckam]

I have a 20 month old son who currently nurses to sleep either in his toddler bed (in our room) or in the family bed. Most nights he ends up back in our bed at some point. I'm pregnant, due end of October and wonder what other moms have done to manage co-sleeping with toddler and infant, especially when both are breastfeeding!

We had a arms reach co-sleeper, though only really used it as an extra protection not to have him roll out of bed as he got a bit more mobile as an infant.  Not sure how this would work with both toddler and infant...

[SustainablParentng]

My ds was 21mo when my dd was born and I "switched sides" with him. I just designated my left side for the infant only - so I would not get confused in the middle of the night. We could not fit together in our queen bed any longer though and upgraded our size. This worked for me, but my ds was always in bed with us so there wasn't much shuffling at night from a different bed. It's definitely doable though - you just need to find what's safe and what works for you (for me, the danger of letting a toddler sleep in a bed with an infant was a non-issue because they never came in contact and I always "favored" the infant)

I am also expecting a new baby in October! Congratulations to you! (Instead of two I will be figuring out how to fit three in my bed:)

[SustainablParentng]

Oh - and tandem breastfeeding in bed - what worked for me was to nurse my infant laying on top of me while my toddler nursed on his "side". My ds was still nursing quite a bit when my dd was born - especially when my milk returned:) so I did do quite a bit of tandem nursing in bed. But still, most of the tandem nursing took place at bedtime - and not so much during the night - but I probably don't need to tell you that sleep was scarce for quite a while at the beginning;) - however, for me, the family bed made things so much easier because atleast I didn't have to get out of bed for anyone. Best of luck in finding what works best for you!

[Rebeckam]

Thx! like the infant on top, toddler on side thought to BF. We are trying to get by with the queen bed, will be tough though (we just love our mattress!) Think I just need to hear that it can work, lack of sleep is expected regardless, so thats okay. You also reminded me that I kept our son on the outside generally when he was very little (fear of dad sleeping soundly), so I'd do the same for new babe.

thx, good luck with your new addition too.