DD (26 months) is a pretty typical 2 year old. she's decently behaved for the most part, but there are of course times when she does something she's not supposed to or doesn't listen to me, and I find myself resorting to raising my voice because I can't think of another way to handle it.
examples: today I was trying to load the dishwasher, she comes into the kitchen and starts trying to grab stuff in the dishwasher. I tell her no, she keeps grabbing things. I ended up physically removing her from the kitchen. a few minutes later she comes back in and starts climbing on the dishwasher door, I tell her to get off. I had my hands covered in grease, so I couldn't physically move her right away, she won't listen to me, I raise my voice, she still doesn't listen to me (not arguing, just ignoring) and keeps trying to climb the dishwasher until I get my hands clean and can physically remove her. this happens every time I try to load the dishwasher unless she's confined to her highchair or asleep (and she no longer naps).
another common scenario: she has a dirty diaper (her dirty diapers get changed in the bathroom, because otherwise the house smells like shit). I tell her we need to go upstairs to change her diaper. she starts to come upstairs with me, then collapses and won't move. if I move her there's a tantrum, otherwise it takes me going the rest of the way upstairs and calling her to come up for several minutes. when she finally gets upstairs she either runs to the linen closet and pulls out everything she can or runs into our room and climbs into our bed or into the bassinet. again, physically moving her results in a tantrum, me talking gets ignored. eventually I get her into the bathroom to clean her up. once I get her butt cleaned, I ask her to sit on her potty while I take care of the diaper. sometimes she will, other times she runs off and does anything she she can to get into mischief. by the time I have the diaper taken care of and a clean diaper on her it's been 20 minutes, I'm shouting, and the baby is crying because he had to be left alone this whole time.
I need some new tactics to try and maybe some perspective. because I can't sped so much of my time angry at her and frustrated because she won't listen (ignores me).
