Anyone else experiencing a child rejecting (rather harshly) another parent's attempts to soothe him/her?
I've always been in charge of nighttime parenting. I have no issue with this. As I progress along in my second pregnancy though, DH has been offering to help throughout the night. DH has been trying to offer his help but last night DD outright rejected him.
Recap: I had just finished re-tucking her in. (She's been waking up asking to be re-tucked in.) I kissed her goodnight and told her that Mama's belly is getting bigger and the baby needs some sleep too. She said ok and then as I was laying on my side trying to get comfortable with the pillows she said quietly, "Rub my back, please."
"Honey, Mama can't lean over to you right now."
At this moment, DH came into the room to check on us. He sat next to DD's bed and said, "Daddy's here. I can rub your back."
DD immediately said, "NO! DADDY GO TO THE LIVING ROOM."
"Daddy is here to help Mama. I can help you rub your back." "
NO! GO TO THE LIVING ROOM!" DD threw her lovey at him.
"DD, Remember if you throw your things, Daddy gets to keep them for awhile. We don't throw things when we are frustrated."
DD throws her flashlight. (She keeps one by her bed.)
"DD, you almost hit Mama and the baby. We do not throw especially in the dark. We can hurt someone by accident." my husband said sternly.
DD begins to cry. "I WANT DADDY TO GO TO LIVING ROOM!"
"Mama is here too. Daddy wants to help." "Daddy please go to living room." DD says weepily but not screaming.
My husband felt so rejected.
He left and she fell back to sleep holding my hand.
Later on in the light of day, my DD and I spoke and I mentioned how Mamas and Daddies check on everyone to make sure they are ok. "Remember how Mama says at night that she is going to check on Daddy and T and the baby?"
"Yes. That's what Mama's do."
"And you check on me too."
"Right. Daddy's check on the family too. He checks on Mama, T, the baby and you too."
"Daddy stays in the living room."
"No, Mamas and Daddies check on the family."
"Daddies stay in the living room."
I felt awful for DH. I know this can be a normal thing that toddlers go through preferences but it was hard to watch. I can only imagine what my husband felt. Is there anything I can do to help soothe this phase or lessen the hurt? Is there a reason why kids go through this? (I'm not questioning just wondering on a scientific/learning/developmental level.) Thanks for reading my long post.