I started EC with DS (now 5) when he was 2 months old, he would pee/pooh on cue by 5 months old (part time as I had a full time job and he was in daycare). Never had intuition, just went by timing. Fast forward to DD, I started EC casually when she was a few days old. No job now, so I EC full time. She is now 5 months and I still miss a LOT. Examples:
--I ask her to go (several times for about 3 minutes), she won't go for me yet she'll go a few minutes later or within 10 minutes
--We are going somewhere, and if she hasn't peed recently I'll try and see if she has to go before we leave so she doesn't have to sit in the carseat in a wet dipe. More often than not, she pees after we leave so she ends up sitting in a wet dipe.
There has only been 2 times where my lap felt warm and she did have to go, this was when she was younger (DH had this happen also). Sometimes I look back and can see the fussing, but other times it seems she doesn't fuss or flinch at all. She is CD'd so I do notice she will fuss after she's wet, but if I don't notice it right away she gives up fussing.
I really thought I would have had the communication down by now :(
I'm also catching less poohs than I used to. She does go more often in the morning and less at night.
I'm pretty sure most of it has to do with my ADHD/inattentive status. I just have a really hard time with it, it's been 5 months now and when she fusses my first thought is still generally not 'oh she might have to pee'.
Unfortunately, she has bad diaper rash for 3 months which is likely yeast, so the sooner I can get a handle on the communication, the better.
I normally potty her over the sink or in a BBLP, and occassionally outside. About a month ago I also started using the potty sign. I cue her 'ssssss, go potty' and when she does go, I praise her but don't go overboard.