Acquaintance's child may be on the spectrum... Advice?

[swd12422]

Never mind. Thanks for the effort to word it nicely, for those of you who bothered to try. Sorry I'm not as good at expressing myself online. I was being sincere. I wish it could have come through that way.

Edited by swd12422 - 7/26/11 at 6:58am

[RJ11]

I would trust that this boy's mother is on top of the situation and you should leave it be. No offense, but it is not really your business, especially if, as you said, your friendship was never very close to begin with.

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by swd12422 At the same time, I feel like as mothers we should support each other.

If you have zero desire to be friends with someone before realizing their child has developmental issues, just stick with that.

The idea of someone who doesn't like me trying to be supportive because they can see my kid has struggles makes me want to barf.

[APToddlerMama]

I think it is kind of you to want to reach out and support her.  But...if you really didn't like her before, I don't think you should.  I don't think it will have the desired effect when you didn't mesh well before. 

[swd12422]

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Edited by swd12422 - 7/26/11 at 6:56am

[babygirlie]

We all stick our foots in our mouths. I bet she is feeling pretty hurt by it all.

I understand where you are coming from, I just don't want you to find yourself in a position of regretting or resenting that you now feel you HAVE to talk to this person. That won't make either of you feel better.

Do you know if she has a big family or support group. I think I would appreciate it as long as you didn't disapear. I would appreciate someone to complain to and that's a big glop to put on someone's plate. I don't want to hear the cheery sunshine of it sometimes. I just want to release and have someone acknowledge the real situation without sunshine bear and his friend hope coming along. I just need to be real with someone. But I don't think she sounds like me. My child doesn't speak either and in the beginning I was prepared for her to be a genius since I was playing the piano by two and was in gifted programs. I feel pretty presumptious now. I spend a lot of time by myself since she has no need for me and rather be by herself and it makes for a lot of depression.

So I'm sorry she came off sounding like a jerk but maybe she didn't realize she was sticking her foot in it. Maybe she DOES need to talk to somebody.

I think you need to do with what you feel comfortable with. I know that I would feel terrible if someone who didn't want to be my friend gave me a sympathy call and then I never heard from them again. I don't want to open up about such big personal feelings to someone who isn't going to be around for a long time.

I commend you for wanting to check in on her... and I think you will. Just be ok if she ends up being the person you remembered.