As I think about this more, there are things that are inherently hard that really just mainly suck. And then there are things that are inherently hard that are so worth the effort.
Things in my life that have been inherently hard and have pretty much 100% sucked:
- watching my mom die a prolonged, painful & premature death from ovarian cancer
- dealing with infertility
- going through the labor from hell & then having a c-section & then getting a breast infection
- sleep deprivation
These are the things in my life that I just haven't been able to put a positive spin on or see "the bright side." Maybe that's just a lack of spiritual evolution on my part, but for all of these, I've experienced the most healing by not trying to "make lemons out of lemonade" but by saying, "This is suckiness of the most major suckitude." And then letting myself feel the pain, whenever it comes up.
Things in my life that have been inherently hard and have been totally worth it:
- coming out as a lesbian
- grad school
- becoming a mom
Those are just a few examples, in each case a huge life transition that challenged me on many levels, but transformative in a positive way over the long run.