is it selfish....

[eblindauer]

i was wondering if it is selfish of me to want to be pregnant again and feel the lil one inside of me and get the attention i only get while pregnant, and that feeling that any mother knows that you have and cant explain to people who have never been pregnant. could that be clouding my judgement of having another, can i really handle another. i really dont know but i want to try. do you have any simular problems and want to have a baby and your husband is in agreement, but you second guess your self. does that mean you go for it or is the second guess a reason to not..... help lol im confused!

[Chicky2]

I wouldn't call it selfish, and yes, I have totally felt it.  That changes as you get older, btw.  I think it sounds like you know you want another, but simply have cold feet.  That is normal and perfectly ok.  Just like after you have the first you wonder how you'll be able to love the 2nd the same.  Then you find out you don't.  You love them just as much, but since it's a different person there's a whole 'nother section of love in your heart, just for them.  With each child I carried, I had fears and doubts and concerns of all kinds.  It's just normal. 

I can also tell you that you will know when you are really done.  I never did believe that for a second while in the midst of baby lust.  I thought I'd be that woman who never felt finished. I couldn't imagine for the life of me not being pregnant, or having a nursling. I thought that when a friend of mine had a baby last year that I would have a really hard time with it.  I knew I'd be there for the birth.  I love that baby boy like my own and I have no desire now to have another, and sometimes I still can't believe how "done" I feel.  I can now REALLY enjoy loving on him and giving him back when I'm done, lol!  And so far I don't miss nursing.  My very last nursling just weaned herself (finally, lol) and I.am.done.

I will be a fantastic grandmother some day.