I am constantly dealing with criticism about my parenting. Most of it comes from my mother and grandmother. When I had my first child I was only 17 and still very dependant on their views as I had yet to develop my own. I am still working on being my own family while still respecting the one I came from. My husband is one who has seen this for a while.. I am just noticing it in full lately. I just want to keep everyone happy. I choose to stop vaccinating when dd2 was born after a ton of research. They feel I am purposely, selfishly, and IGNORANTLY subjecting my children to vpd's. I think not! I had a home birth with dd3.. at first they were not supportive, but I sat them down in front of "The Business of Being Born" and read of a few statistics to them and now after being there for my moms birth she is a total advocate for home birth lol. But its mostly the little things that get to me. Like when dd1 is throwing a fit... she is nearly 3... and I feel I need to put her in time out, if my grandma is around she starts making excuses for her and says I am mean right in front of dd1. to me this is desrespecting me as her mom and showing dd1 she can do the same and mommy is mean and grandma can be her savior. I also had 3 kids in a row, all 16 months apart. My husband and I are doing good financially and we just LOVE kids lol. We are not done.. and I am not sure when we will be. My grandma has actually accused me of having some kind of mental disorder because I told her I wasn't done having kids. and then there's the fear thing.... my mom and grandma expect me to worry about every little thing.. the kids must never be barefoot... I should trap my toddlers in a stoller or playpen whenever we are out so no one gets hurt or stolen because surely I can not keep track of all three. They don't want me going to the store alone with all three kids. I have learned I have to be layed back about somethings so that I can focus on the important things and enjoy my kids. I love how Cory Tenboom put it "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorry; it empties today of its strength." I struggle because it seems like if I don't take every piece of their advice Iam called stubborn disrespect, and lazy. I will be the first one to admit I don't know everything there is to know about parenting, but I am learning everyday, my kids are teaching me. I feel like they want to raise my children... why can't they just be confident they raised ME well enough to make these kind of decisions myself. I don't mind hearing their advice.. its just if I don't take it I don't want to be told what a terrible parent I am and be nagged over and over again about it. I kind of avoid them now, because all they do is criticise and make me 2 nd guess myself. I have talked to them many times about it and they just don't see it. I love them soon much, but it hurts when they are literally calling me a bad mother for such minute things. I spend every waking minute with my children, they are my life.
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