feeding in public no cover
I don't nurse in public that often, and when I do I like to find a quiet spot (as much as is feasible) - my babe is quite easily distracted. Anyway, I never use a cover. I was at a festival this past Saturday and went under a tent to nurse. I pulled a chair towards the back, more for shade than privacy, and we start breastfeeding. This older lady - 60s?-comes over and offers me a towel. She was really sweet and I think she thought she was doing me a great service, but it was the "dome of heat" on the East Coast this past Saturday. Uh, thanks a lot, lady! As if my sweating son needs to be covered by anything at all! I accepted it and just placed it on my lap.
I've never used a cover. Seems to me like they draw more attention (instead of helping to be discreet). I nurse everywhere (and I DO mean everywhere) and have never encountered any negativity. In fact, I was recently nursing my 11-month old on a completely packed NYC bus and a woman went out of her way to tell me how awesome she thought it was :)
I'm still new to this, but I really don't want to nurse with a cover--the thought of using a cover makes me feel like I'm trying to hide something shameful--and I'm not! I've only nursed in public a couple of times so far, and nobody has said anything negative to me. I like to think that I am helping to normalize breastfeeding in the public eye. (Of course, I think others should use covers if they are more comfortable that way!)
I covered at first because I didn't really know what I was doing and neither did DD and latching took FOR-EV-ER. I also really hate to feel exposed and IDK it just felt "safer". But DD was only about 6 weeks when she decided she DID NOT like the cover. She actually grabbed it, pulled it off, twice and I've never put it back on. She's 6 m/o. I just wear a tank and another shirt - pull one up and one down. It's very minimal exposure and I'm not going to make her uncomfortable when she's trying to eat! That said I try to hang out somewhere relatively solitude (picnic bench at the park when DS is playing) mostly because I don't want to distract other CHILDREN who aren't familiar with breastfeeding. In mostly-adult situations, I just nurse her where I'm at - they know what I'm doing... I'm feeding my child!
The only time I actually "go elsewhere" to nurse is when we're at my brothers... he's a 24 y/o mainstream guy and our mother didn't breastfeed us, and his sister's breasts used for ANYTHING is just more than he can handle. I respect his overall uncomfortableness because of our background, and he's my brother, so I see no reason to push it.. I just go to another room.
This has been my experience as well. I just lift up my shirt and latch dd on and then pull the shirt down to cover most of my boob.
We used a cover for maybe the first 3 months, until we became comfortable with how breastfeeding works, and since then I've only used it at church and around the ILs, though now, at 15 months, we rarely nurse out of the house, though if necessary, we just go for it, but if possible will find an out of the way spot so ds can focus better.