So DD has been having tantrums, no biggie, she's spirited so hers are extreme, but I am dealing.
We went to a local bookstore we visit frequently that has a train table with trains for the kids to play with. DD was playing then got fussy and said she wanted milk.
I start nursing her but she starts flipping out (IDK why) so I just put her down distracted her and told her she could nurse in a minute. So like 10 mins later she asks to nurse. (I nurse discretely, but not covered, one shirt up one shirt down type deal)
There is a little boy (toddler really, maybe like 2.5) that asks his mom what she was doing. The mother looked at me in HORROR and tells her son my DD is sleeping. Then DD gets up and looks at them like they are nuts and she goes "Oh she's resting!" then grabs her kid and brings him away to the other side of the store.
Then DD starts fussing again and wanting to switch sides every minute (everyone is starring at me but I am covering my nipple the minute she pops off) and this mom with a newborn (maybe 1 m/o, bottle fed) and a 3ish year old looks over, grabs her 3 y/o and announces we need to go now! (her DD was watching me nursing) Then dashes away as fast as possible....with her DD flipping out asking WHY?!
Then a woman is casually going by with her two sons looks over and sees me nursing and say "Come on boys let's go! Don't look! Keep walking!"
Well by this point I felt really uncomfortable b/c they made me feel like I was some circus freak show or something and my DD definitely picked up on that and started having a huge meltdown so I had to carry her out of there absolutely hysterical, kicking and screaming! (She's very sensitive to her environment and my emotions)
I have never felt "shamed" even when people have said mean things to me. I can't believe I am STILL feeling insecure a few hours later. Is it really that big of a deal to nurse my toddler in public? I mean no one said anything directly against me but their actions absolutely mortified me. Is this what I have to expect and live with now b/c DD is older and "expected to be weaned"?
How would you have dealt with this, what would you have done differently?