I wanted to do a fresh start on my "Second Sex" question, which was penned on a not so great day.
Basically, I was trying to say that though I've gotten positives and negatives from both genders, when it's been critical, I've had men in power stand up for me in my professional life but women in power have not. And on a few occasions they have seemed to seek to undermine me. I hate to say it because I feel like I'm only reinforcing a stupid cliche, which I didn't used to believe in, but it's really been my experience unfortunately, especially as I've advanced in my career.
I mentor and try to help young professionals of both genders but, even though it's not very egalitarian of me, I go out of my way to help women, just because they are women. I figured if I wanted women to stand up for women, the best place to start was with myself. And we could use a little extra love and friendship out here. But after 10 years, I'm not feeling a lot of hope that other women share this feeling, or even want to stand up for themselves.
I don't see my life as a gender battle but I do think it's too easy for women to set their sights low and inadvertently influence their peers to do the same. And I think moving beyond that takes conscious effort. And I think women who work in male dominated industries may see this difference more clearly than those who do not.
So, that was my real point, which got muddled up in my other post. Thanks for listening.