Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy
How did you go about finding a good therapist? How did you know if that person was going to actually be helpful?
Honestly, I start by figuring out who is on my insurance and is close to me!
I trust that the universe will bring the right person to my path for now. I usually stick with the first person I go see, as I don't see the point of shopping around for a therapist. That would just distract from the real business that I need to get down too. However, if in that first meeting I get the feeling it isn't the right person, I'll try a second person. I've never found a need in a city to try more than two people before finding someone I can work with.
It's OK to ask specific questions about how they work that are important to you. My two questions this time around were:
1. What do you think of cognitive behavioral therapy?
2. What are your religious views, and how do they impact your counseling?
I'm a fan of CBT. The counseling doesn't have to have special training in it or anything, just know what it is and find it a useful tool. I'm not a Christian, and have found that Christians tend to annoy me in the role of therapist (no offensive to Christians, I can be friends with Christians, just not have them for a counselor).
In your situation, having someone who can help sort out your med situation is very important. Most drugs have alternatives that have slightly different benefits and risk. And you right now you are using alcohol to self medicate. A very small amount of alcohol during pregnancy most likely will not have an effect on a fetus, but no one knows exactly where the line is. Using alcohol to self medicate is a huge red flag waving widely that you are not doing OK.
I believe that a counselor who is really up on medication alternatives OR works closely with someone who is would be good for you.
If you haven't read up on CBT, you might. It sounds like it might be something you would like, because they do TELL you how to look at the situation differently, not just listen to everything you say.
If the only reason you active with a counselor right now is the filming thing, I would try an appointment or two and see how it feels. It may be set up in such a way that you quickly forget about it, and by going in and honestly doing your work, you could help others, both future counselor and patients, in the future. It wouldn't be my first choice and I understand why you hesitate, but at the same time, I think things happen for a reason.
Good luck. I think it's time for you to make some phone calls and make some changes.