My situation's a bit complicated. My daughter's father wasn't really part of her life for the first three years. He lived in another country and would come visit for a week or so every year but that was it. Finally we decided to get married and he came here in December of last year to live for good. I had had my doubts about marrying him because we'd never been able to live together for long periods of time without a lot of fighting. But I ignored those worries and married him. Worst decision ever. The same problems soon cropped up and long story short, he's moved out and isn't coming back.
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Now, when he was here, he barely interacted with our daughter at all. He closed himself up in a back room all day and she literally saw him for maybe an hour or two total throughout the entire day. So it's not like he was a huge part of her life at that point but she knew he was Daddy and when he DID come out of hiding, she was all over him. Now that he's gone, she's constantly asking where Daddy is. She knows I took him to the airport last week and whenever we go to the store or something, when we come home she races inside to see if Daddy came home while we were gone. In the mornings, she runs from her bedroom to see if Daddy is asleep on the couch. When she asks when he's coming home, I just have been saying "I don't know", but I can't keep that up. I know he's not coming back. I know the only reason he came to visit before we married was because he hoped he still had a chance to get together with me and she wasn't really part of the equation. When he left for the airport he didn't even tell her goodbye or look at her or anything. Just walked out the door with his bags. So do I just tell her Daddy's not coming back? It seems so hard because she's just 3 and I know she won't completely understand but I feel horrible constantly telling her what's basically a lie.
