Hiya folks, hiya hiya.
It's been a long, LONG time since I posted here, so I don't have much hope that anybody remembers me by name. Some might remember me by "Rudolph the Foreskinned Baby" and a couple of other parody lyrics, or maybe the hand model demonstration of circumcision's effect on skin mobility that I wrote with Gary Harryman years ago. Or, well, as the guy who submitted the first-place winning intactivist question in Rob Newell's (of The Truth Laid Bear/TTLB Ecosystem) poll of reader-submitted questions for the GOP congressional leadership candidates.
If you haven't heard about that latter, it's probably because he cheated us out of first place both times.
Anyways, I'm dropping in today because I'm seeking emotional support. I just found out that a couple of weeks before the big genital-mutilation-via-garbage-disposal laugh-in on CBS' 'The Talk' recently, Sharon Osbourne told ET that if she'd were Schwarzenegger's wife, she would have. . .cut off his willy and run it through the garbage disposal. See http://www.etonline.com/tv/111780_Sharon_Osbourne_s_Choice_Words_for_Arnold_Schwarzenegger/index.html
So did Catherine Kieu Becker get the idea FROM Sharon Osbourne? Or someone who repeated Osbourne's views to her?
I'm very upset at Osbourne's "apology", as well. Especially in comparison to her apology to Susan Boyle for calling her ugly with several unorginal put-downs a while back. Osbourne didn't even apologize to the victim himself this time; just to 'offended people'.
I've concluded that the default standard of treatment for boys and men in usa culture is dehumanization and objectification. Don't believe it? Let's compare two statements:
"I do not condone genital mutilation and I didn't mean any harm by laughing about it and I'm sorry that I offended people 'cause that's not my intention or the intention of this show. It's not what we're about. So I apologize."
So Susan Boyle wins worldwide acclaim, fame, and fortune for her magnificant singing ability. Sharon Osbourne then calls her ugly using several unoriginal put-downs.
Eventually, Susan Boyle receives a direct apology from Sharon Osbourne on the grounds of having exploited her for audience amusement.
Later, a man is drugged and tied down by his domestic partner, one Catherine Kieu Becker, and when he regains consciousness, she cuts off his penis as he helplessly watches, then takes it into another room, and grinds it up in a garbage disposal, while he helplessly listens. Sharon Osbourne thinks this is "quite fabulous" and makes other comments praising it and making jokes about it.
Eventually, Catherine Kieu Becker's victim has to settle for just being one more among the of millions of people to whom Sharon Osbourne "apologizes" for offending them on the grounds that she didn't mean any harm and her intentions weren't bad.
Am I the only person to notice a grotesque double standard here?
I want you to try imagining that for a minute. Imagine waking up and finding that a person you once wanted in your life, strongly and deeply enough to marry them, has drugged you and tied you up. And then, as you watch, unable to do anything to defend yourself, completely helpless, she cuts off your penis.
Now, if you've got enough presence of mind and pop culture or medical background, you know that there's a chance this can be fixed somewhat. Your penis can be surgically attached, like John Wayne Bobbit's.
But then she takes into another room, and if you're not screaming too loud to drown it out, or too deep in shock to notice, you hear her destroying it in the garbage disposal.
What do you think that feels like, emotionally? What goes through a person's mind during something like that?
But wait, there's more!
Now imagine being that person, and watching this clip of 'The Talk' show where the hosts and audience are laughing heartily at what was done to you. They are delighted that you, personally, were drugged and tied down and your penis was cut off and ground up in a garbage disposal. They think it's marvelously, wonderfully funny. It makes them happy.
Lying in your hospital bed, facing a life choice of penile castration vs. a poor artificial imitation of a penis made from your own forearm skin, you watch them praise your sexual mutilation. Your violation is their amusement. An entire audience of women is laughing uproariously at what was done to you. And as you listen, you look down at the remaining stump of your manhood, wrapped in bloody bandages. That's what amuses them. That's what they're laughing at -- your crippled, mutilated, ruined penis, and that it was done to you.
And then comes the non-apology, in which you aren't even addressed specifically. You're just one of millions who were "offended".
The default standard of treatment for boys and men in usa culture is dehumanization and objectification.
Because there's no way things like these happen unless that's true.
Well, I have more I'd like to say but I just can't continue this right now. It's hurting too much again. I've cried for this man twice already today, and if I start again I won't be able to hold food down.