dd is 21 mos. and extremely willful. i feel like we let her do a great bit of exploration but we do set boundaries and limits when they are needed. i try to explain to her why she can't xyz when she cannot. sometimes she is fine with it.
however, there are times when i have to try to get her to stop doing something or keep her from doing something dangerous.
now, we don't use time outs, try to do time-ins, etc.
but i count to 3. nothing comes after three (like it's not used in conjunction with punishment of any sort) and i usually say something like "if you cannot remember to not stand on the chair and pull things off the shelf onto your head, i will count to three and help you." or whatever. and count.
do you guys do something different in situations like that?
should i not do this? it ususally gives her the awareness that if she doesn't choose to do something that in most cases she knows not to do, then i will reinforce the limits. she 80% of the time will stop whatever it is or do whatever it is that she should be doing. so it works. i just wonder if it's somehow not a good way to do things.