(but anyone, feel free to chime in :)
Just curious if you have any thoughts on this-
I'm not a terrific interviewer and am always looking for ways to improve. I just have trouble answering questions on the spur of the moment, and getting my thoughts out cohesively and concisely, even though I have a lot of knowledge and experience with supporting families.
SO, anyway- in a recent interview, the dad was pressing me to tell them when they could expect their (as yet unborn) baby to sleep through the night, and how a doula could help them achieve that. I do not believe in baby/sleep training and don't believe there is any certain time babies do STTN. In my own family, and in the numerous babies I've worked with and heard about, there is such huge variation, there is no way I could say 6 weeks, 6 months, 1 yr. It is so different with every child, and they STTN at various times and then they don't. Anyway, I felt like we were going round and round and he was getting more agitated at my seeming non-answer, and I was feeling like they thought I was pretty incompetent if I can't answer such a basic question about babies. They couldn't understand why I would be saying what I was saying, if all their friends and what they've read indicates that at some point you train the baby to STTN (and I"m sure their pediatrician will verify it, too!).
So is there anything else you can think of for the next time this comes up (since I'm sure it will!) or did I do the best I could in that situation? Obviously, if STTN is very important to them, we're not a great match, so I'm more than fine with not being hired. But if it's just a new-parent, not really understanding how babies work kind of thing, I'd like to give realistic expectations and sound professional at the same time.
Thanks for any input!
Edited by Awaken - 3/20/12 at 2:37pm