DH and I (well, and DS too, I imagine) are all at the ends of our ropes.
Starting 3 weeks ago, DS has been getting up 6, 7, 8+ times during the night. The last few nights it's been 10+. We are so overtired. I am 37 weeks pregnant. We need some serious help.
He does not usually nap. We dropped naps a while ago, since even a short nap would keep him from falling asleep until 8pm or later. We have a regular night time routine including a long bath, 3 stories, songs and cuddles, lights out by 6. He is able to fall asleep on his own, and usually does so within 10-15 minutes.
Most nights, even these last terrible nights, DS will sleep soundly on his own from 6:15 pm until sometime around 11. He's almost always woken up at 11. We'll take him back to bed, tuck him in, give him a kiss, and that's enough to help him settle back down. But, now between 11pm and 6am (when he's up for the day), he'll wake up hourly, or even more frequently. He will settle down with a kiss and tuck in, but then be up again right away. Sometimes he's calm about it, sometimes he's crying, sometimes he's yelling "I'm not tired!" I'll ask if there's something scary, and he usually says no.
He's never been a "good" sleeper. In fact, I don't think there's ever been a time that he's slept from bedtime until morning. Ever. For the longest while, he'd get up about twice (at 11pm and one other time) and easily re-settle in bed. That was manageable. He's demonstrated that he can sleep for a good chunk on his own, because he usually does between 6 and 11pm. So, how can I help him get more of those long chunks?
-curtains closed/curtains slightly open
-white noise on/off (he insists on it being off now)
-changing his diaper in case it's too wet (we use disposables at night now)
-"to-the-point" tuck-ins ("time for bed. we love you. goodnight") vs. extra cuddles and calming words vs. angry "stay in your bed!" demands
-lots of praise after a good night of sleep, telling him how happy we are that everyone got lots of rest
-reiterating that he's safe and loved at night and that we're always here if he needs us
-DH sleeping in bed with him (not our ideal, but no one was going to sleep last night if he didn't do so)
Co-sleeping with him does not work for me. We did for a long time, but I can no longer sleep if he's in my bed because he's all over me. Plus, with the new baby coming, this is not a good solution for us.
I'm thisclose to gating him in his room. It's not what I would normally want to choose, but our current situation is not sustainable.
What other ideas can I try? I'm up for just about anything!