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post #21 of 92

I was probably into the 3rd or 4th week before I figured out how to do it. For the first few weeks we had him in a co-sleeper thingy between us in bed, and it sucked because my back hurt really bad sitting up in bed (plus I needed to sit on one of those doughnut cushions due to a giant healing perineal tear), so every time he was hungry I'd have to lift him out of his bed, get up and go over to a chair and get all propped up on my pillows- then he'd fall asleep nursing and then wake when I tried to put him back down...and then I'd end up going downstairs with him so as not to wake DH while he was fussing...and then he'd fall asleep in my lap again only to wake AGAIN when I tried to put him back in bed...and on & on.

 

DH kept telling me to "just nurse him lying down, that's what you're supposed to do!" and I was like HOW??! I would try and it just seemed so awkward! We have no LLL chapter here, and having people describe it to me on the phone was no help. I think it was in one of Ina May Gaskin's books where I finally saw a picture and description that helped. At first I had to prop up on my elbow a little while he latched on, and then slide down slowly to a full lying position, but now it's super easy! Also when he was real small I felt like I had to hold my boob away from his face to keep blocking his nose- but with practice (and him getting bigger) it's no longer a problem. Also from Ina May, learned that by backing up a little and rolling toward him with my knee up more to keep me from rolling all the way, I can dip the upper boob down for him so he can alternate boobs w/out me having to roll over & switch sides- which is nice for nights he's extra thrash-y- so he doesn't have to be between me & Dh and pummel him awake! (or when DH is extra tired and I'm worried about him not being as alert to the little guy's location). However- that position is kinda uncomfortable as I'm then squashing the boob I'm leaning over on- but it's good to have the option.

post #22 of 92

I found it easiest when the baby is already at least 3 wks old. I have small breasts and with my first baby my friend kept telling me to do side lying position and i was like "how? my boobs dont reach her, im serious" she just couldn't believe me, but finally i figured it out somehow. Nursing in general is very personal in that its definitely not one size fits all. You'll find your own positions that work best for you in time. Just stick with it!

post #23 of 92

Mine are size F and I have always had a rough start with getting comfortable while feeding. I am on baby #2 and I never got the hang of side lying with my daughter. It took me about 3-5 weeks this time around. It definitely takes some maneuvering and getting used to but once you've got it, you've got it. I started out feeding him with the top breast while we were both on our sides and I had to lay almost flat on top of the other one in order to get him latched on correctly, after a week or two I started getting sore and worried about clogged ducts so I wouldn't recommend doing that for too long. I finally was able to get into a comfortable position with feeding him from the bottom one by starting out sitting up, making sure he had a good latch, then laying both of us down at the same time. My bottom arm will be in a triangle shape close to my head.

I know with my first I was on edge all the time, she would nurse for AT LEAST an hour about ever hour or two and because I also had a problem with oversupply/OALD nursing was almost unbearable unless I was sitting straight up an exact way~ with the exact same pillow~ on the exact same couch. It was exhausting and eventually took a toll on our breastfeeding relationship, so I was determined this time to get comfortable while I fed no matter what it took. I found one website very helpful;

http://www.biologicalnurturing.com/video/bn3clip.html

http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/01_laid_back_breastfeeding.pdf

and although I don't position myself the same way as they describe it helped me to learn how to get myself comfortable while nursing and it has made ALL the difference in the world. I am able to sleep not only at night when I'm side lying but if I'm extra tired, also during the day because I'm in a comfortable enough position to where I can just lay my head back or to the side and nap until he's done. I would suggest just experimenting with putting your body into different positions until you find one that really works for you. I've found sitting relaxed on the couch I can put him into an almost diagonal cradle hold where hes in a sitting position facing me, while I curl my legs up to his back. Once he's on correctly my legs are enough support for him so that my hands are free and I've been using this position since he was just a week or two old (still supporting him with my hands at that time) so it is possible.

Good luck!

 

 

 

 

post #24 of 92

It'll happen!  And when it does, you can learn to shift your body back a little bit and give your babe the top breast so you don't have to roll over baby (or pick baby up and roll over).  And then your sleeps will improve drastically again.  :)  We started nursing laying down all the time probably around 2-3 months and then nursing lying down-but-from-both-breasts-without-rolling-over around 4-5 months.

post #25 of 92

with my second child, i was doing it as soon as he was born. like, within hours.

i would suggest that you take a "nursing vacation" where you just stay in bed with baby and nurse for as long as you can -- all day if you can do it.

he/she will get the hang of it.

post #26 of 92
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Originally Posted by mediocrewitch View PostAt first I had to prop up on my elbow a little while he latched on, and then slide down slowly to a full lying position, but now it's super easy! Also when he was real small I felt like I had to hold my boob away from his face to keep blocking his nose- but with practice (and him getting bigger) it's no longer a problem. Also from Ina May, learned that by backing up a little and rolling toward him with my knee up more to keep me from rolling all the way, I can dip the upper boob down for him so he can alternate boobs w/out me having to roll over & switch sides- which is nice for nights he's extra thrash-y- so he doesn't have to be between me & Dh and pummel him awake!


All of this.  Plus with baby #1 somebody gave me a nursing positioning pillow with a light in it like this, which was super amazingly great at the time.  Nice soft light so you can see what you're doing without waking baby or DH.  Solves the thrashing issue too. 

 

post #27 of 92

nursing from both breasts on one side worked for my first, but with my second, the top one makes him gag because of the angle and gravity that makes it flow way too fast for him (if you have "over abundant" supply like me sometimes it may be an issue, like LLL says "its like trying to drink out of a hose on your back!")  I was able to do it with my first but then again I had a big problem with recurring clogged ducts and mastitis and this time haven't had it at all...

 

post #28 of 92

it took a while for us but now its a our favorite thing. i still hold my boob most of the time, my babes are lazy with thier latch and ill fall out otherwise. 

 

 

also i can now feed both breast from either side, i nice trick, bottom ones is a bit harder, but there is times when strangely it is easier. so dont assume which boob is best on a certain side till you test out both!

 

also be aware of what shape you hold your boob in, i noticed at first that i was flatting it perpendicular to their mouth, so no wonder it was hard to get on, a side effect of having my arm at a differnt angle, once i fixed that it was better, and yeah i pull thier bodies way in like another poster mentioned

post #29 of 92

It took a while for dd and I to get the hang of it.. couple months maybe? Not sure :/ sooo long ago! We practiced when wide awake during the day occasionally, way easier than sleepy and in the dark. For some reason it was particularly difficult for her to latch that way. Can't fathom why. It did help if I propped myself up on one elbow to get her latched, then eased myself down. Had to be slow and careful easing myself down so she didn't lose her latch. It definitely took persistence to get it down, but it sure was heaven once I could just sleep topless and let her help herself at night.. ahh...

 

For ds, goodness, that child had NO PROBLEM nursing regardless of position, from day 1. He wanted it, and he'd take it wherever and however he could get it! Right after the birth we went upstairs to bed and he didn't want to let go for an hour or so. I don't know if he was just a natural born "perfect nurser" or if it was ME being more experienced so it was more second nature to me, or simply because my nipples were nicely broken in and easy to grab onto thanks to the tandeming toddler? newborn dd was a very efficient nurser, fast gainer, it would take her a minute or two to get latched on even sitting upright in a nice comfy position, in a well lit room. I assumed this was par for the newborn course. Then ds came along and hoooly crap, that boy could NURSE! Side lying in bed, pitch dark, less than 24 hours old? No problem, he grabbed right on about as easily as the toddler would. Sure got lucky with him. 

post #30 of 92
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Originally Posted by Marissamom View Post

with my first, she was about 2-2.5 month old when we figured it out, with my second we did when he was hours old. I have yet to talk to mom who could early on with her first. 



I just had my 1st babe on Tues night and we've been doing it since day 1.  He was really fussy the first couple of nights and it was the only way I felt safe to doze.  It wasn't perfect at first being new at everything but we got by and I got some much needed rest (after 22 hrs of labor, I needed it.)

post #31 of 92

My son is 2 1/2 weeks and we've been nursing this way for about a week.  He nurses constantly so Ihad to make this work or I'd never sleep.  I have large breasts, it's not perfect but it works pretty well.  I have to put my lower arm up so my breast is lower.   The latch takes a little longer to get right than when we're sitting up but after a few attempts it's good.  Sometimes if we're having a really hard time with the latch I'll roll him to his back and lay over him to get the nipple in correctly then hold he back of his head and roll us both back to the side.  That can take a few tries too.  My little guy naturally likes to lay on his side though so maybe that helps.  I don't have to prop him up or anything.

 

Keep trying!  I've had a ton of breastfeeding issues so far and they would all be a million times worse if I was sleep deprived.   

post #32 of 92
I had to get us nice and comfy feeding from the bottom breast for a few weeks before I tried positioning to do the top breast - avoiding having to change sides. It is trickery for me to get him to keep a good latch but I second the sentiment that side lying is THE BEST!!

I'm back to work now part time and on my days off its morning side lying with mama time.

One of the best things about daytime side lying is the easy sweet eye contact with no neck tweaking or discomfort.
post #33 of 92

I've been exclusively side-lying since my boy's birth almost 3 weeks ago. In fact I'm trying to get the hang of the other positions...

post #34 of 92

It took a lot of practice before my son and I were able to successfully nurse lying down. I cannot recall the exact age we mastered it but it took a while. Practice, practice practice.........

post #35 of 92
Side lying in bed and nursing is my favorite position and all my babies did it from the start. I have D/DD breasts and absolute no problem with nursing this way. What exactly does not work for you?
post #36 of 92
Thread Starter 

Well, my baby has difficulty latching in any position. I have to hold my breast for her and roll my nipple into her mouth while holding her head and neck with the other hand and bringing her head to my breast. She's just not nursing well generally. I've been to the lactation clinic 5 times in the last 3 1/2 weeks. They actually had me try using a nipple shield (my nipples are kind of flat and soft), which seems to be helping her latch on and she nurses longer with it. But now I'm afraid that is going to interfere with her breastfeeding on my bare breast. I'm not sure what to do. But when they weighed her before and after breastfeeding with and without the nipple shield, she got more with it than without it. So I don't know what to do! It's very difficult to get her to nurse. She has trouble latching on, and she's not an efficient eater - she will nurse for an hour and only get about half an ounce to an ounce. Part of this is because she always goes to sleep almost as soon as I put her to the breast, so she is pausing a lot and not sucking hard enough and continuously. I do everything I can to stimulate her (tickling, talking, rubbing her with a wet washcloth, blowing  on her, etc.), but it just isn't enough. I'm also struggling with juggling pumping and nursing. I want to let her nurse as long as she wants, but then I don't have time to do anything else (pump, eat, sleep, etc.). I think it would help if we could nurse lying down so at least I could rest a little. 

post #37 of 92

That was actually the first way I breastfed my baby. I didn't know anything about breastfeeding or that it was supposed to be a difficult position. It just felt right and worked for baby and me. The midwife came the next day (I had a UC) and was amazed that I was breastfeeding her side-lying. I have no idea if breast size has anything to do with it. I am normally a B cup and was a small C during and after pregnancy.


Edited by amberskyfire - 8/6/11 at 10:32am
post #38 of 92
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Originally Posted by DrBrockBaca View Post

Well, my baby has difficulty latching in any position. I have to hold my breast for her and roll my nipple into her mouth while holding her head and neck with the other hand and bringing her head to my breast. She's just not nursing well generally. I've been to the lactation clinic 5 times in the last 3 1/2 weeks. They actually had me try using a nipple shield (my nipples are kind of flat and soft), which seems to be helping her latch on and she nurses longer with it. But now I'm afraid that is going to interfere with her breastfeeding on my bare breast. I'm not sure what to do. But when they weighed her before and after breastfeeding with and without the nipple shield, she got more with it than without it. So I don't know what to do! It's very difficult to get her to nurse. She has trouble latching on, and she's not an efficient eater - she will nurse for an hour and only get about half an ounce to an ounce. Part of this is because she always goes to sleep almost as soon as I put her to the breast, so she is pausing a lot and not sucking hard enough and continuously. I do everything I can to stimulate her (tickling, talking, rubbing her with a wet washcloth, blowing  on her, etc.), but it just isn't enough. I'm also struggling with juggling pumping and nursing. I want to let her nurse as long as she wants, but then I don't have time to do anything else (pump, eat, sleep, etc.). I think it would help if we could nurse lying down so at least I could rest a little. 


I could have written this exact post! I feel your fatigue...

I have the same concerns about the shield but at this point it's the only thing that gets her on the breast.

I also really want to learn the side-lying position. Hope to pick up some good advice from this thread.
post #39 of 92

I remember crying in frustration trying to get my tiny newbies to nurse side-lying.  I promise, you WILL work it out eventually if you just keep trying!

 

I have large, soft breasts and I started out with soft, flattish nipples and needed a nipple shield to help baby's latch.  I never worked out how to nurse on my side with the shield on, but maybe there's a way, I don't know.  My termie was off the shield at about 5 weeks old, and weighed about 8-9lbs, and it was just SO HARD to get the hang of it.  I ended up having DH help me by positioning the baby for me until I learned where he should be in order to have his mouth line up with my nipple when I offered him the breast.  I used a scissor hold at first to get my nipple where it needed to be while keeping the breast tissue from smothering the baby.  Over time, as he grew and my supply regulated, it got easier.  We started nursing side-lying at about six weeks, with the scissor hold and DH helping me position and being up against a pillow propped against the wall for my back and a pillow rolled up behind baby's back and ugh, it was taxing, but it was so worth it.  By the time baby was 3 months old, we were still using the scissor hold but he was able to stay in place without something behind him and I knew how to position him without DH's help.  Now he's 9 months and he's finally turning the corner in terms of being able to latch (and breathe at the same time) without me doing the scissor hold to support my breast.

 

Hang in there, mama!  You'll figure it out, just keep trying!

post #40 of 92


 

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Originally Posted by DrBrockBaca View Post

Well, my baby has difficulty latching in any position. I have to hold my breast for her and roll my nipple into her mouth while holding her head and neck with the other hand and bringing her head to my breast. She's just not nursing well generally. I've been to the lactation clinic 5 times in the last 3 1/2 weeks. They actually had me try using a nipple shield (my nipples are kind of flat and soft), which seems to be helping her latch on and she nurses longer with it. But now I'm afraid that is going to interfere with her breastfeeding on my bare breast. I'm not sure what to do. But when they weighed her before and after breastfeeding with and without the nipple shield, she got more with it than without it. So I don't know what to do! It's very difficult to get her to nurse. She has trouble latching on, and she's not an efficient eater - she will nurse for an hour and only get about half an ounce to an ounce. Part of this is because she always goes to sleep almost as soon as I put her to the breast, so she is pausing a lot and not sucking hard enough and continuously. I do everything I can to stimulate her (tickling, talking, rubbing her with a wet washcloth, blowing  on her, etc.), but it just isn't enough. I'm also struggling with juggling pumping and nursing. I want to let her nurse as long as she wants, but then I don't have time to do anything else (pump, eat, sleep, etc.). I think it would help if we could nurse lying down so at least I could rest a little. 


We had to start side-lying right away because I had a HUGE hemmroid that necrosed, and until they cut it, I could not sit down to nurse or for any other reason for about 10 days! Necessity is the mother of invention, and since we had to, we figured it out pretty quickly. It helped to have DH help position him on his side so he didn't flop back on his back, and to keep his little flailing arms from getting in the way of his mouth! It was a couple of months though, before I could do it with the "top" boob, mostly because I had oversupply and he was drowning in it, but if you have a low supply, it might actually help her get a little more because the top boob is kind of hanging over her a little so gravity will help her with the work.

In response to not having time for other things like pumping- I'm pretty sure that even a poorly nursing baby is going to stimulate more of your milk hormones than any pump- your brain knows that this is a baby and not a machine! I'd check with the lactation consult here, but my gut tells me that letting the baby stay latched ALL THE TIME if she wants to, will help her gain weight and learn to nurse better. Even when she isn't sucking effectively, it is still stimulating your breasts, which is the key to getting more milk made for her to get. Sleeping you can do once you get the side lying thing down, and eating you can do sitting up- enlist your husband, neighbors, friends, LLL ladies, anyone, to come over and bring you some food!

Also, if you can, nurse topless (except maybe when those neighbors are bringing you the food)- the skin to skin will help your little one make growth hormone, and with the boobies right there, she'll figure out how to get what she needs to make use of it. 

Best of luck!

Rachel

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