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post #41 of 69

Moochie... I would drop that one quick. It's ridiculous but some men will tell you what they think you want to hear just to get what they want and then the truth comes out. He's a pos. Just forget him. I'd try #2 if I were you or just wait for something else. It really sucks to walk away from someone when you have that kind of chemistry with them and give that up but it's for the best if he can't give you what you want. I can't believe he'd do something like that at the party though. Aghh men!

 

minim: A 19 hr date?! Wow that is definitely some Aug heat!!! Congrats~

 

Chica: I understand how you feel. I'm very protective of my kids too and keep my dating life away from it. I just think it's easier for me at least to not have anyone around my kids unless I find it to be very involved which hasn't happened yet. I did let one around my kids a while back. He had a get together with friends and other kids around so I went and took my kids since I knew they'd have fun and not notice it as a guy around given the situation but it still ended badly because he kept trying to talk to them and paying attention to them... sweet but I didn't want you messing with my kids buddy. Had to cut that quick so I understand.

 

Zoey: Your guy sounds great~

 

Martha: I didn't do the internet dating thing for long but didn't have much luck with it either. I did meet one guy and he ended up being too serious too quick for me and I dropped it. I think the other girls have given you some good advice and I'm sure they know more about it than me lol. Just have fun with it!

 

Tried to respond to the posts so far but sorry to anyone I missed. This is a whole new group! It's gonna be great getting to know everyone again and I'll try to keep up!

post #42 of 69
Yay! He wants to know what I'm doing tomorrow! That's 3 dates in 8 days, ladies!
post #43 of 69

woo hoo Molly! 3 dates-that sounds fun :)

I got a good OKC story to share tonight. Someone sent me one of those IM deals so I answered back and made small talk- he was a bit weird so I visited his profile, checked out his photos and he had two. One was just a normal candid and the other...oh you know his bulge! super, nice talking with you, goodnight! I swear I am a creep/weirdo/nut job magnet on that site!

post #44 of 69
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..oh you know his bulge! super, nice talking with you, goodnight! I swear I am a creep/weirdo/nut job magnet on that site!


LOL!  Had to laugh at that!  I think I'm a player magnet in real life. 

 

Saw this on fb today and had to share:

 

"Don't dwell on who let you down, cherish those that hold you up."  Anonymous.

 

This hit home today as I realized how lucky I am to have amazing friends IRL as well as the support of you ladies here!

 

I asked #2 (who I'm now calling Dreads because, well, he has dreads and #1 is no longer in the picture) to the concert that I'm going to this weekend, it turns out he's working it so maybe I'll run into him there.  I've decided to take a break from pursuing anything, I'm going to sit back and just see what happens, with this guy or any other that comes along.  Hopefully I'll have something interesting to post soon but if not, I've decided that I'm ok with that too!

post #45 of 69

Had to share something xh said to me yesterday:  "I should have cheated on you more than I did".  irked.gif Nice, reeeaaallly nice. Well that explains the STD he had a couple years ago that he claimed was something he'd had before we were together and was dormant all those years.  Good thing I never caught anything from him.  I need to change my user name bc Moochie was something he called me.. does anyone know how to do that?

 

post #46 of 69

How's this for romantic...Last weekend, I got bedbugs in my apartment, and the Incredibly Nice Guy spent his entire weekend doing hard manual labor helping me clear out the apartment. And he never complained about it, and was super sweet. And we actually had a pretty nice time through all that hard manual labor. God, I'm goofy in love with him. He's such a decent man, y'know? Just a really good human being who deliberately tries to do the right thing in his life. And he's a drop dead sexy geek. :)

Jeez, it's ridiculous how much of our wedding I have planned out in my head, and we're not even engaged yet. I'm trying super hard not to obsess. I think it's coming -- we've been having lots of conversations that reference our future and we've talked openly about marriage -- but I think it's still a little ways off in the future. Honestly, I would love to be engaged to him this year. But I've realized that one of his main needs is a little bit of time and space. It's not in a way that scares me or worries me. He's open that he does want marriage and children in his future, and he's said that he could see having that with me. But I know that he's moving steadily and cautiously, and I respect that about him. We've only been together 10 months (a year in October) so I don't think there's a rush yet. I feel like the pace is good, and more importantly, I feel like we are constantly moving slowly but steadily in the right direction.

post #47 of 69

Had 5th date with new guy last night, who I will call Bond, LOL, because he's a bail bondsman. Other guy I've been dating for the last 3-4 months I will call Kilt because he always wears utili-kilts. smile.gif

 

Bond is super attractive, my age, divorced and has 3 young kids. We have great conversations about kids and parenting and world politics, spirituality and social issues and all that jazz. The incompatibilities that I see are that he is a daily pot smoker and that he's Muslim. He's not a very observant Muslim, though, since he's going out for a beer with me, smoking, dating non-Muslim women, etc. Interestingly, we've talked spirituality quite a bit and have lots of beliefs in common, but I'm pagan and loosely observe/practice/study earth-based feminist spirituality. Sometimes I wonder if he's attracted to me because I am so far left of what he's "supposed" to look for in a woman, that I'm some sort of novelty, but on the other hand he's just a guy who was raised in the same city as me and we have a lot in common. The pot smoking turns me off but he seems to function well and it seems to be, for him, the equivalent of someone having a glass or two of wine after dinner on a daily basis. Anyway, those things make me think "I'd never marry you," but we've only gone on 5 dates. 

 

As with Kilt, for a large portion of his adulthood he has drank more than I'm comfortable with, though it has tapered off quite a bit. He's kind of a perma-bachelor and has no spiritual life to speak of whatsoever, nor an interest in one. Those are the things that make me think "I'd never marry you, either." But, he's super intelligent and kind and funny and we have a good time hanging out. 

 

Kilt and I have been sleeping together for awhile, with the understanding that we can date other people but that we would stop sleeping together if/when we become interested in being sexually intimate with someone else. I've backed off for a little while with him because I've been more and more interested in Bond. Bond and I have just hung out, with barely a hug at the end, until last night. Last night he left with just a hug, and then came back a few minutes later and gave me a great, super hot and looong good night kiss! Oh it was so fun. 

 

Buuut, I don't really want to be making out with a bunch of people at once, so I'm going to continue backing off from Kilt. I feel sort of bad about it, but our dating relationship has progressed to the point where it feels like it either needs to cool down or get more serious--it can't really stay where it is. His feelings for me are stronger than mine are for him, he's ready for a relationship but I just don't feel like he's who I want my next serious relationship to be with. I want to hang out and have fun and have little commitment, but someone to make out with is just FUN.

 

Part of me wonders if this is ok, if I'm being some kind of emotionally unavailable player, if I'm just avoiding being alone. But, on the other hand, I have been totally up front and honest about where I feel I'm at emotionally and what I'm interested in or not into. I have said the whole time to Kilt that I want to date other people, that I'm not interested in a serious relationship, etc. Bond knows that I was dating someone else for awhile. 

 

How many of you date casually with little or no expectation/intention to find a long-term partner or serious relationship? I think my own preconceived ideas of what's "appropriate" for a woman or a mother or whatever bring up some guilt about having relatively casual sexual relationships, but they are mostly based in the Christian values I was raised with about "no premarital sex" and our culture's double standard about men being studs and women being whores if they have multiple partners. This might not work for me for very long, but my kids are not involved in my dating life at all and I am physically protecting myself and engaging with other consenting, enthusiastic and respectful adults, so those facts are competing with the taboos in my head. 

 

I'm interested in your thoughts.

post #48 of 69

Interesting question. I think it's 100% fine to date casually, as long as you're honest with yourself and with the people you're dating.

The first question is, what are you looking for? Do you want to get married? If that's your end goal, be honest about that (to yourself, I mean.) Do you not feel ready to get married or be in an intensely committed relationship, even if the perfect guy came around? Be honest about that too.

If you are ultimately wanting to find a true partner and marriage, it's still fine to date casually. The problem is when you find someone you kind of like for casual dating, but you know they're not someone you'd ever want to marry. You can date them and enjoy them for a while, but the problem is when you stop meeting other people because you're just kind of surfing along with Mr. Right Now. It's like the idea of missed opportunities.

Early last year, I decided to take a break from dating to kind of get my head on straight. I had made a series of pretty bad choices and I wanted to focus on getting my own life in order. That summer, I met a sweet, young (like seven years younger than me), cute, smart guy. We hooked up at a work conference. He lived about two hours away and would come visit me every couple weeks for a few months. I totally liked him, was pretty attracted to him, enjoyed hanging out with him and though he was an all-around decent guy. I'm sure he'll make a lovely husband someday, but we positively weren't marriage material for each other. After dating him for a few months was actually really nice, and fun, and kind of healing. Then I crossed paths again with the Incredibly Nice Guy (we had been on a few dates about nine months before that) and we've been together almost a year since that. I broke it off immediately with the younger guy. I didn't want something fun but ultimately short term to stand in the way of a potential lifelong match. 

So, I dunno. Date casually if you enjoy it, but just be careful that you're not giving too much of yourself to something or someone that might not give much back to you. And if you don't feel like he's the guy for a serious relationship, then you're not under any obligation to stay with him.

post #49 of 69


 

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Originally Posted by chicaalegre View Post

Had 5th date with new guy last night, who I will call Bond, LOL, because he's a bail bondsman. Other guy I've been dating for the last 3-4 months I will call Kilt because he always wears utili-kilts. smile.gif

 

Bond is super attractive, my age, divorced and has 3 young kids. We have great conversations about kids and parenting and world politics, spirituality and social issues and all that jazz. The incompatibilities that I see are that he is a daily pot smoker and that he's Muslim. He's not a very observant Muslim, though, since he's going out for a beer with me, smoking, dating non-Muslim women, etc. Interestingly, we've talked spirituality quite a bit and have lots of beliefs in common, but I'm pagan and loosely observe/practice/study earth-based feminist spirituality. Sometimes I wonder if he's attracted to me because I am so far left of what he's "supposed" to look for in a woman, that I'm some sort of novelty, but on the other hand he's just a guy who was raised in the same city as me and we have a lot in common. The pot smoking turns me off but he seems to function well and it seems to be, for him, the equivalent of someone having a glass or two of wine after dinner on a daily basis. Anyway, those things make me think "I'd never marry you," but we've only gone on 5 dates. 

 

As with Kilt, for a large portion of his adulthood he has drank more than I'm comfortable with, though it has tapered off quite a bit. He's kind of a perma-bachelor and has no spiritual life to speak of whatsoever, nor an interest in one. Those are the things that make me think "I'd never marry you, either." But, he's super intelligent and kind and funny and we have a good time hanging out. 

 

Kilt and I have been sleeping together for awhile, with the understanding that we can date other people but that we would stop sleeping together if/when we become interested in being sexually intimate with someone else. I've backed off for a little while with him because I've been more and more interested in Bond. Bond and I have just hung out, with barely a hug at the end, until last night. Last night he left with just a hug, and then came back a few minutes later and gave me a great, super hot and looong good night kiss! Oh it was so fun. 

 

Buuut, I don't really want to be making out with a bunch of people at once, so I'm going to continue backing off from Kilt. I feel sort of bad about it, but our dating relationship has progressed to the point where it feels like it either needs to cool down or get more serious--it can't really stay where it is. His feelings for me are stronger than mine are for him, he's ready for a relationship but I just don't feel like he's who I want my next serious relationship to be with. I want to hang out and have fun and have little commitment, but someone to make out with is just FUN.

 

Part of me wonders if this is ok, if I'm being some kind of emotionally unavailable player, if I'm just avoiding being alone. But, on the other hand, I have been totally up front and honest about where I feel I'm at emotionally and what I'm interested in or not into. I have said the whole time to Kilt that I want to date other people, that I'm not interested in a serious relationship, etc. Bond knows that I was dating someone else for awhile. 

 

How many of you date casually with little or no expectation/intention to find a long-term partner or serious relationship? I think my own preconceived ideas of what's "appropriate" for a woman or a mother or whatever bring up some guilt about having relatively casual sexual relationships, but they are mostly based in the Christian values I was raised with about "no premarital sex" and our culture's double standard about men being studs and women being whores if they have multiple partners. This might not work for me for very long, but my kids are not involved in my dating life at all and I am physically protecting myself and engaging with other consenting, enthusiastic and respectful adults, so those facts are competing with the taboos in my head. 

 

I'm interested in your thoughts.


I'm not the one to give advice right now- I am in a serious dating rut/dry spell if you will so I say date away and yes to sex! Seriously, I need to remove myself from this discussion my mind is clearly affected by the zero dates and crappy prospects that is my world right now!

OK but really in all honesty, I don't see anything wrong with casual dating, isn't that what dating is or can be anyway? going out with different people and doing all that comes with dating someone, including physical "things". And if you aren't looking for someone long term are you just not aloud to date- nah I don't think so- date away! As long as the other person doesn't get really hurt I mean. I guess if you really lead someone on thinking the relationship was going somewhere serious that might be unhealthy and just mean.

 

post #50 of 69
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 Jeez, it's ridiculous how much of our wedding I have planned out in my head, and we're not even engaged yet. I'm trying super hard not to obsess. I think it's coming -- we've been having lots of conversations that reference our future and we've talked openly about marriage -- but I think it's still a little ways off in the future. Honestly, I would love to be engaged to him this year. But I've realized that one of his main needs is a little bit of time and space. It's not in a way that scares me or worries me. He's open that he does want marriage and children in his future, and he's said that he could see having that with me. But I know that he's moving steadily and cautiously, and I respect that about him. We've only been together 10 months (a year in October) so I don't think there's a rush yet. I feel like the pace is good, and more importantly, I feel like we are constantly moving slowly but steadily in the right direction.


Ditto to all of this except I've been with Cool as a Cucumber for 3 months longer.  :)  Hilarious that every word resonates!

post #51 of 69

chica - I think dating is fine. That's exactly what it is. Just spending time with people (even sex) while you look for what you need. You won't find it without getting out there. I understand seeing someone even if you feel like they aren't someone you can/want to be with and don't see that as a problem as long as you're honest about your expectations on the relationship. I do want to say though that you might want to stay open to options I don't know the situation with the two guys you mentioned or if there is someone else in your world right now (or that could be) but... I had a 'friend' for a long time. We actually dated for a few months when we first met before deciding that we were both too busy and not in the right place for a 'relationship' so we broke up but kept seeing each other for the physical connection because it was awesome! LOL We did this off and on for a long time around our relationships until we both got caught in something more serious. Right after my separation I ran into him again and we started our 'thing' back up. He started talking about wanting to have another kid and get married and stuff. At first I thought it was just talk since we are friends and talk to each other aside from our physical connection. Then he started changing things on me... the private time got really intimate in a way we'd never been, he started calling me baby, and asked me to go away to his family's for the weekend with him. I didn't go. It freaked me out because I'd never thought of us being more than we were and I didn't know how to react. At the time I didn't feel ready for that and hadn't thought of him that way so I backed off and we fizzled out.

 

I did try to reconcile with the ex (BAD idea) and since being single again I started talking to my '1st love' again. After a few weeks of talking to him I realized that we are totally different people now and while the fantasy I had of him in my head is nice I don't think I'd ever be happy with him and need to back off of that. It got me to thinking though when I was thinking about all the things about him that aren't what I want and really thinking about what I need and want in someone to make me happy. Talking with a friend about it and comparing notes I realized that the 'friend' had so much of that and I regret not taking the chance to see what could have happened just because it scared me lol. So I'd put some thought into what you want and make sure to keep yourself open to things while you date.

 

 

 

And since I brought it up.... luck has been on my side. The "friend" I just mentioned just happened to reappear in my life this past weekend. Needless to say after just telling a close friend how I regretted backing out of it before and wondered what I might have missed I'm ecstatic to have him back around. I went to see him last night and WOW! I'm going to see him this weekend again if we can work it out. I don't know what he's thinking now if he's wanting our 'friend' thing back or if he's still interested in changing it but for now I'm just coasting with it and we'll see. I think I'll have a much better idea where I stand with this one in the next week or so but we'll see. Happy happy :)

post #52 of 69

I was looking at the original question at the start of this thread...what would we tell our daughters...sigh! I will tell my daughter to trust her gut and that pretty is as pretty does. As in, just cuz some man is super hot doesn't mean he's the best choice of people to date. Oh, if only I had learned that lesson.

 

I am kicking myself right now because I am fairly certain that Bond is a pretty classic charmer/player. I found his Twitter page and it was just littered with totally gross, disrespectful sex jokes and other similar banter between him and his friends. It SUCKS to see this now, because the other night we had SUCH a good time, and he is an awesome. kisser. So attractive, we have good conversations, he's smart and interesting and funny...but now I think he's kind of a narcissist. Awesome!

 

I am also kicking myself because Kilt and I have pretty much ended things. He sensed me backing off when I started hanging out with Bond, and I mentioned to him that I wanted to be free to date other people. So, Kilt has understandably backed off. He's so respectful about it, too. I know he has really strong feelings for me and that this has hurt him (although I was up front about what I wanted and have been honest from the start). Kilt really has so many qualities one would want in a solid, reliable, good partner. We have similar family backgrounds, he behaves totally consistently, there is so much EVIDENCE that he is a good man. But, of course, per my pattern, the riskier one is WAY more attractive to me. Damn. 

 

Why does it always have to be the hot ones that are a-holes? 

 

I suppose this is just as well. My judgment could clearly use repair and it may well be best to do that with no men around to cloud it.

post #53 of 69
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Why does it always have to be the hot ones that are a-holes?

Because they can get away with it.

I've been on both ends of that stick. I'm on your side of it right now. A flurry of sudden activity with 19 hour date guy and now I haven't heard a word from him for close to a week, which is a little disappointing, but predictable. The lesson I'm taking away from this: If you have to ask yourself if he really likes you, the answer is probably no.

I'm still happy to have discovered that I can feel a strong attraction to someone. In the last several months, I've met a few guys that I kinda liked, although things didn't work out smoothly enough for anything to develop. But with each one of them, I would feel a little grossed out when I'd think about kissing them - no matter how attractive they were, I wasn't really attracted to them. But I actually wanted to kiss this guy!!! So it's possible! I was beginning to think that I was permanently broken in that way.
post #54 of 69

Hello everyone, haven't checked in for a while here and it seems there's loads to catch up on! Mimim, wow - go for it! And Butterflymom, wonderful to hear it's all still going so well with Cucumber and moving ahead...

 

After deciding to move in together things have changed and after 2 months of dating very intensely, Carpenter and I both (separately) came to the conclusion that now is not the time for him to move in with me, at least not in the space where i currently live. After spending a few weekends with me here it became crystal clear that he doesn't like my city or my flat and it would only make him unhappy being there - not exactly a good start to the next stage of our relationship.I also feel that I'm only just starting to really get my groove on as a single mother and making big breakthroughs in my relationship with my son - always good but quite rocky lately - and the last thing we/he needs is another relationship into the mix, in our home and all the complications that brings - that became clear too after seeing how DS, although he likes Carpenter a lot, was responding to this new triangular situation - boy, was he jealous! Anyway, I think we both got rather carried away on a wave of romanticism but it was fun while it lasted. Feel a bit sad that we're now facing reality. But ultimately we both need to be happy in our lives individually before we can join together - it's no good trying to fix our lives by hooking up IYKWIM. I'm still totally in love (and in lust) with him and he feels the same, which is such a refreshing change from the last few relationships. Trying to take it one day at a time, but at the moment it's very hard to think we face two more weeks apart after a week apart already. This long distance thing really sucks sometimes, but i'm trying to see the positive in it and trust that we will join our lives together at an appropriate time and in an appropriate way. 

post #55 of 69

Okay I don't HAVE a dating life yet, but am contemplating it. If you were 37 with two children (9 and 11) would you even CONSIDER going out with a 30 year-old with no previous marriage/children, or should just avoid something like that all together?

post #56 of 69

I may have spoken too soon. There were some jokes on his Twitter feed that were gross, raunchy guy humor, exchanged between him and a couple of his friends--but he owned right up to it when I asked him about it and didn't make excuses. 

 

My fear is that men who make pornographic jokes are mostly interested in using women for sex, have little respect for women or are outright closeted misogynists. But, that might be more my fear than the reality, because I'm thinking about a lot of the men I know who are generally good, decent men, and even they laugh at jokes that I am offended by, sometimes. Bond has kept in regular contact with me since we started hanging out, has acted very enthusiastic and said really kind things, and has actually been really respectful and slow about physical stuff. We've only kissed and we've hung out several times, for several hours, and he only kissed me after I initiated it after the 5th time we hung out. I suppose it's possible that he's completely full of shit and just waiting a bit before he executes some plan to screw me over, but I'm hoping not. 

 

I'm realizing that I am so gun shy, after being with several men who were either emotionally/physically abusive, objectifying and disrespectful, really did just use me for sex, etc. I feel super sensitive to anything that could be an indication of abusive behavior. But I guess I'm finding that, if I see even one thing, it overshadows any GOOD behavior immediately. Maybe I should try to be a little more balanced? 

post #57 of 69

Anon-abroad, I would definitely consider it! My personal feeling is that I will go on ONE date with almost anyone who asks me, unless they make some horrible impression first. Even if I'm not particularly attracted to them. 

 

Personally I would be more interested in someone without children, and younger isn't necessarily a problem, as long as he's mature and healthy. :) Nothing to lose by just trying it out, right?

post #58 of 69

I think that after making a series of bad decisions about men, stepping back, not dating for a bit and really focusing on self-growth can be a smart thing to do. Chica, have you read Codpendent No More or Temptations of the Single Girl or anything like that? I had three terrible relationships in a row (as in, the guys themselves were legitimately terrible -- an abusive alcoholic guy with borderline personality disorder, an alcoholic generally broken guy, and a narcissist whose other girlfriend made herself known three months in.) After that, I decided that I had to acknowledge that something about me was drawing these guys in, and I was somehow vulnerable to bad relationships. I also had to acknowledge that I was ignoring a ton of red flags early on for the thrill and fun of new love. And as a mother, that shouldn't be able to fly anymore. I could subject myself to it, but not my son. 

I had actually been really trying to fix my own codependency and stuff for about a year before that, but at that point I decided to stop dating for a while and really focus on growth hardcore. I think it worked a lot, and I've caught myself catching red flags and not even starting to date guys I might have otherwise been into.

The funny thing, the last thing that kicked me into the no dating experiment was the fact that I met the Incredibly Nice Guy early last year at a party, he asked me out a couple days later, and we went on three dates. I was like, what the hell, here's this guy who is practically perfect on paper for me in every way and I'm not feeling at all into having a relationship with him. We kissed at the end of each of the three dates and physically it was freaking amazing and intense, and even with that chemical attraction, I still, for some reason, didn't feel into him. I still wanted a bad boy, I guess. I stopped calling him back, and he didn't pursue it, though we kept in touch a bit through facebook. Almost a year later we ran into each other again. We were obviously both super into each other, we started dating again, and now we've been dating almost a year and I can't shut up about how I want to marry him and make his babies.

It was weird to be at that point in my growth where I could acknowledge that I somehow wanted a guy who was bad for me and couldn't be with a nice guy who treated me with respect. And it feels really good to be at the place where I can accept love that doesn't hurt me, and truly believe that it's what I deserve.

post #59 of 69
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Okay I don't HAVE a dating life yet, but am contemplating it. If you were 37 with two children (9 and 11) would you even CONSIDER going out with a 30 year-old with no previous marriage/children, or should just avoid something like that all together?

Yes. I would and I have. Generally, guys that young aren't "relationship" material though, which is ideal if you are just starting out.
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I'm realizing that I am so gun shy, after being with several men who were either emotionally/physically abusive, objectifying and disrespectful, really did just use me for sex, etc. I feel super sensitive to anything that could be an indication of abusive behavior. But I guess I'm finding that, if I see even one thing, it overshadows any GOOD behavior immediately. Maybe I should try to be a little more balanced? 

My suggestion is to pay attention to things that bother you, but don't dwell on them. Realize that you have to accept them or move on - you can't change them and you can't tolerate the intolerable. I am worried about being gun shy in the same way as you, but I think it's necessary. Better to be alone than to be in another unhealthy relationship.
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I had three terrible relationships in a row (as in, the guys themselves were legitimately terrible -- an abusive alcoholic guy with borderline personality disorder, an alcoholic generally broken guy, and a narcissist whose other girlfriend made herself known three months in.) After that, I decided that I had to acknowledge that something about me was drawing these guys in, and I was somehow vulnerable to bad relationships. I also had to acknowledge that I was ignoring a ton of red flags early on for the thrill and fun of new love.

Yes. Infatuation is so thrilling. It's hard to keep a level head and pay attention to warning signs. If I catch myself "overlooking" things, I back way off to evaluate. I learned that the hard way too, MamaJen.


And speaking of attracting unhealthy men... The married guy from earlier this month texted me the other day about how much he wants to see me again. ROTFLMAO! He must be crazy! I considered replying with only "LOL" but I decided it was better to just ignore him.
post #60 of 69

anon abroad, why not!!

I used to think I didn't want to date men with kids....

I now think its about the personal connection not the other stuff.

It's a date not an arranged marriage!!!

 

 

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