Is anyone here thinking about birth plans already? I'm thinking a lot (surprising myself how often) about whether and how I'd want my mom to be involved. There is no other real question of who. It'll be me, DH, 2 midwives, and possibly a doula if we find one we *really* connect with and can afford. Then my mom. She lives a mile away. I love her dearly and she is rally supportive in general. She labored and delivered naturally for both my brother and I by choice. I don't think she'll be discouraging. I just dont' *know* ahead of time whether she'll have the right kind of energy.
A lot of you (or others on the forum) have mentioned wanting a photographer. My mom's actually a pretty good one. Maybe that (plus food preparation) could be her job? How invasive does it feel to have someone snapping pictures?
Generally I'm very controlling of my environment. I want to plan things out so that I don't feel the need to stay in control at all. I want to be able to completely release myself into the work/bliss of laboring. I have no idea if that's possible with my mom or anyone else is in the house!