HELP!!! I have two AWESOME boys 3 and 5 and I just feel like I am messing this whole parenting thing up. Growing up I remember my parents being soo confident in what they were doing, but me and my husband don't have a clue. I over annalize EVERYTHING, to the point that no matter we choose to do I see the negatives....uggg
Anyone else feel like they are failing at parenting?
OMG, yes, thanks for posting this. I feel like this too, I question so many of my choices and feel like I'm probably the worst parent sometimes. It's such an enormous responsibility to raise children, and to think that the decisions we make as parents affect their whole lives.
I wish they came with a manal! LOL
You begin by saying you have 2 "AWESOME boys."
You have a lot to do with them being awesome so
obviously you're not messing the whole parenting
I have high expectations of my parenting that are
very hard hard to fufill but feel that children give
parents and `A' for effort. I'd say they feel your love
and the force of your intention and that effects them
much more than anything else. They will probably
be parents some day and as another poster said
it's an enormous responsibility and you are modelling
for them, in that most difficult endeavour, the thing
upon which everything else matters; the effort, the
caring, the why. I'm guessing you are those boys
hero in some way and they'd fight for you as you
fight, struggle to be your best for them and do your
best by them.
I threw my cup away when I saw a child drinking from his hands at the trough.
You are not alone. I think parenting is the most challenging thing I have ever entered into. I feel I have made so many mistakes already. I have only one son-he's 5.5 yrs. now and it has taken me alot of work to forgive myself and be ok with the mistakes I feel I have made. I am sure though that my son knows he is loved and that makes me feel like at least I have that right. He is also a great kid.
It's hard sometimes too to not compare yourself with other parents who seem so together and know what they are doing...but most of the parents I talk to admit that they are just doing their best too....Parenting is a journey. I feel like my son is helping to raise me in a way. His person presents so many opportunities to grow as a human-to be more loving, and less critical, listen more, react less....As a previous poster said...she now understands her mother better. Ido too...and I can try to change those things that I remember not enjoying about my mother's parenting...as I see myself re-enaacting some of it. UUGH!
Of course we all want our sons and daughters to have the pleasure of good parents and guidance to grow into healthy happy people....One person told me," Know that your son picked you and your husband to be his parents.As a soul he has things he needs to work out and he picked you to help in his journey." so for whatever that is worth I am passing that on to you.
Yes, we ALL feel like that sometimes.....I also over analyze things and forget to bring it back to the basics sometimes. For me, I find it really helps to take a step back, take some deep breaths and just LOVE my kids. Make a conscious effort to just find moments in the day to simply be with them with your undivided attention in play. So simple, so basic, and somehow it never fails to be the best medicine for all of us! the giggles, the hugs, the being silly brings it all home.....