This is all very true! Nora is just uber sensitive, and I worry about her seeing me in pain. I think she would understand more than she would know how to deal with emotionally, and not only that, but *I* don't want to be worried about her while I'm trying to labor. I don't want to worry about having to be quiet enough not to wake her if it's night time, or even if it's just daytime and wants to play and I can't. And I need DH. I'm selfish like that, I think. I'll have my mw and her assistant but it's just not the same as looking at DH and having him tell me I'm doing ok. Sigh. BUt you're right, it won't be the end of the world. Just different than I imagine.
i understand all of that. that's the ideal and we all want whatever we do to be as close to the ideal as possible. you've done everything you can to make that happen. it doesn't do you or anyone else any good if you worry about it. you don't have any control over what actually happens when it happens. all you can do is plan and set things up. then you have to let it go. kwim? you've really got it all covered. give yourself credit for that.