August 2011 Whatever Ladies Having Babies - Page 2

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

This is all very true!  Nora is just uber sensitive, and I worry about her seeing me in pain.  I think she would understand more than she would know how to deal with emotionally, and not only that, but *I* don't want to be worried about her while I'm trying to labor.  I don't want to worry about having to be quiet enough not to wake her  if it's night time, or even if it's just daytime and wants to play and I can't.  And I need DH.  I'm selfish like that, I think.  I'll have my mw and her assistant but it's just not the same as looking at DH and having him tell me I'm doing ok.  Sigh.  BUt you're right, it won't be the end of the world.  Just different than I imagine.

i understand all of that. that's the ideal and we all want whatever we do to be as close to the ideal as possible. you've done everything you can to make that happen. it doesn't do you or anyone else any good if you worry about it. you don't have any control over what actually happens when it happens. all you can do is plan and set things up. then you have to let it go. kwim? you've really got it all covered. give yourself credit for that.

[Baby_Cakes]

You're right.

I talked a bit about it with Chris last night.  That my apprehensions about Nora are probably what's got me most worried.  He looked at me like I was nuts and was like, that's the LAST THING you need to be thinking about.  She will be fine.  Even if she cries a bit when she leaves or is at Mom's she's going to be fine.  Even if she ends up STAYING she's going to be fine.  Just "worry" about what matters and let me take care of that.  What a good guy.  

How is everyone sleeping?  I've gone back to taking half a benadryl before bed and it really helps.  I get to sleep until about 430 or 5 before waking up hungry or having to pee.  I go to bed around 11.  So that's pretty good, but ugh, I still wake up to ctx and have so much trouble rolling over!!!  LOL!

[MarineWife]

Ava is home!

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

You're right.

I talked a bit about it with Chris last night.  That my apprehensions about Nora are probably what's got me most worried.  He looked at me like I was nuts and was like, that's the LAST THING you need to be thinking about.  She will be fine.  Even if she cries a bit when she leaves or is at Mom's she's going to be fine.  Even if she ends up STAYING she's going to be fine.  Just "worry" about what matters and let me take care of that.  What a good guy.  

Aw, now that's a good husband. You've got everything set up and he's going to take care of it all and still be with you when you need him. Sounds like Nora is fine with her grandma so you don't need to worry about that. I remember being so worried when Sean and I went away for a weekend and left E and K with my mom. I thought they would be very upset and wouldn't be able to sleep because they had always slept in the bed with me. My mom said they didn't even notice I was gone. Out of sight, out of mind, I guess.

we haven't been sleeping too well the last couple of days. D has been having tummy troubles.

[onetwoten]

Ohhhh!  Yay Ava!!

Carrie-- Doesn't it make you melt when they say things like that? I'm so emotional pregnant that the littlest thing happens and I'm like awwwww. We were out with family a few weeks ago, and a relative tried to touch my belly, and I pulled back and was like "no... my body is still my body, you can touch the baby when it's outside", and it turned into a bit of a tiff with her (apparently being my aunt, she thinks she's entitled). Anyways-- we got home, and DH was like "I just want you to know I'm proud of you for standing up to her". I melted, teary eyes and everything. Over such a small thing!

Nora is a bit younger, but my niece was at her sister's birth when she was 3. She is too a very emotional, sensitive little girl, but she did wonderful at the birth. She was like a little doula the whole time, rubbing her mom's hand, telling her it was ok, she just had to get through a little bit more, it was all for her baby, etc etc. She was making us cry with how intuitive and compassionate she is. 

What about watching a few tame videos with her so that she's a little bit prepared if she is there? Obviously you don't need anything graphic, but just the sounds of a woman grunting and working, to let her know "hey, this might happen, but it's ok! mommy is just working hard"

DH and I somehow have like... a full day off today. I'm bewildered. He's been so busy with the election work, that it's been two weeks since he didn't have to go into the office. We can't get work done on our fence today, which has been our big project, so I think we're going to focus on cleaning the house, which will feel glorious!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

Ava is home!

Aw, now that's a good husband. You've got everything set up and he's going to take care of it all and still be with you when you need him. Sounds like Nora is fine with her grandma so you don't need to worry about that. I remember being so worried when Sean and I went away for a weekend and left E and K with my mom. I thought they would be very upset and wouldn't be able to sleep because they had always slept in the bed with me. My mom said they didn't even notice I was gone. Out of sight, out of mind, I guess.

we haven't been sleeping too well the last couple of days. D has been having tummy troubles.

Yay!  I'm so happy to hear about Ava being home!!  That is wonderful news.

I really think Nora will be fine w/Grams.  I just need something else to agonize over, lol.

Hmm, still gas?  Did you try the homeopathics?  Otherwise, with Nora we tried gripe water and it usually worked, and I know when she was a little older we did use Mylicon a few times.  I think that's what it was called.  Could it be something like a food sensitivity?  Have you tried eliminating dairy from your diet?

Originally Posted by jeninejessica 

Ohhhh!  Yay Ava!!

Carrie-- Doesn't it make you melt when they say things like that? I'm so emotional pregnant that the littlest thing happens and I'm like awwwww. We were out with family a few weeks ago, and a relative tried to touch my belly, and I pulled back and was like "no... my body is still my body, you can touch the baby when it's outside", and it turned into a bit of a tiff with her (apparently being my aunt, she thinks she's entitled). Anyways-- we got home, and DH was like "I just want you to know I'm proud of you for standing up to her". I melted, teary eyes and everything. Over such a small thing!

Nora is a bit younger, but my niece was at her sister's birth when she was 3. She is too a very emotional, sensitive little girl, but she did wonderful at the birth. She was like a little doula the whole time, rubbing her mom's hand, telling her it was ok, she just had to get through a little bit more, it was all for her baby, etc etc. She was making us cry with how intuitive and compassionate she is. 

What about watching a few tame videos with her so that she's a little bit prepared if she is there? Obviously you don't need anything graphic, but just the sounds of a woman grunting and working, to let her know "hey, this might happen, but it's ok! mommy is just working hard"

DH and I somehow have like... a full day off today. I'm bewildered. He's been so busy with the election work, that it's been two weeks since he didn't have to go into the office. We can't get work done on our fence today, which has been our big project, so I think we're going to focus on cleaning the house, which will feel glorious!

Awww!  I so hear you.  The other day I teared up b/c Chris said he thought it was awesome that I drive a stick.  I mean, he taught me and I've been doing it for years, but something about the way he said it made me cry.  LOL.  Love preggo hormones.

I think if Nora WERE 3, it'd be different.  Like closer to 4 or something.  But she's still only 2.  It's tough.  She's watched a few tame water births with me on the computer and is interested, but sometimes I feel like it's just TMI for her.  She usually wants me to skip over the whole thing until the baby is out and in moms arms, lol.

I put all my maternity pics up on FB!  Here...

http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150206698385387.453385.579845386&l=71d544addf&type=1

That should work...

[onetwoten]

Oooh I love the photos!

I get what you mean, she is still very young. It's hard to know how they'll handle something like that. I'm sure it will work out just as it's supposed to in the end though!

We went and got the pack and play. It's perfect, except it's missing one of the poles for the bassinette. Shouldn't be a big deal- I'm sure DH could buy something at home depot to substitute, but I'm going to try evenflo directly first, and see how much a replacement part is. Other than that, it just needs to air out- I think they were smokers. 

It even matches our living room. lol. It's going to live in our bedroom though, pushed up against the bed, for nighttime sleeps and changes. Anyways, I'm impressed for $60, and it's one more thing to cross off the list! I can't wait to fill it with all the baby stuff though. Even if it will be months. Squeeeee. 

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica 

Oooh I love the photos!

It even matches our living room. lol. It's going to live in our bedroom though, pushed up against the bed, for nighttime sleeps and changes. Anyways, I'm impressed for $60, and it's one more thing to cross off the list! I can't wait to fill it with all the baby stuff though. Even if it will be months. Squeeeee. 

Thanks!!!

What a steal on that pack and play!!!  Nice!  I really like the pattern, too!!  It is so exciting to see you building stuff up for your little one!!  I know you said you'd be what, 25 weeks for your u/s -- when is that?  How much longer do we have to wait?  LOL!

[onetwoten]

23 weeks was Thursday... the ultrasound is on the 23rd I think? Tuesday of that week. It's so close... and yet still seems so far away. 2.5 weeks. But only one until we go away, so I'll be baby shopping still not knowing the gender though, which sucks. We're not buying anything clothing wise- just nursery stuff (I need baskets for the closet organizer, and a nice blanket to use as "the crib blanket"). 

I just noticed you can totally see from that photo how small our house is too. lol. We're standing in the living room, the space to the right is the kitchen, The open doors ahead you can see are our room on the left, and the babys room on the right. The bathroom is in between the living room and our bedroom. You can totally tell why we're anxious to finish the basement and add the extra 700 square feet to the house! After the reno, we'll have a guest bedroom downstairs, a full laundry room with pantry area, two huge storage closets, and then a combined rec room with play area, tv area, and our new open office. I can't wait. 

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Hmm, still gas?  Did you try the homeopathics?  Otherwise, with Nora we tried gripe water and it usually worked, and I know when she was a little older we did use Mylicon a few times.  I think that's what it was called.  Could it be something like a food sensitivity?  Have you tried eliminating dairy from your diet?

I'm not sure if it was gas last night but think it must have been some tummy trouble. I don't know what else it could have been. I haven't been eating or drinking any dairy so I'm pretty sure it's not that. Although, I haven't eliminated all foods with even the tiniest bit. I think it may have been the dinner my mom made that I then had for lunch the next day, cooked tomatoes. He was very restless the afternoon and evening after I ate that lunch but has been fine today. Back to his marathon napping that makes me so nervous that I wake him up.

I haven't gotten anything yet because I haven't been out and my mom would have no idea what to get. I've looked at that gripe water before. A lot of people recommend it. If I remember correctly, though, I thought there was something questionable in it. Can't remember what now. I'll try it if this keeps happening. I need my sleep.

I didn't mention the age thing because my kids were older. E was 3.5 and K is 4. Nora is almost 3, though. That might make a difference. An almost 3yo is much different than a just 2yo. KWIM?

Personality makes a big difference. E got scared when my labor with K got serious and my mom had to leave the room with him. K, on the other hand, didn't seem phased at all. He stayed sitting on my bed the whole time once he woke up. I do remember being concerned for a second that he might get upset but that quickly disappeared when I had other things to focus on. But you just never know how someone will react until they are in the situation. Like JJ said, it will all work out, especially since you have a plan.

JJ ~ Good deal on the P&P. 23 weeks already?!

My homebirth high is coming down. I've been feeling sad and down the past couple of days. I had to stop taking my placenta capsules because I felt like I was coming down with something and E had a 24 hour thing. The instructions say to stop taking them if you get sick until you are better. I started taking them again today so, hopefully, I'll feel better soon. That's a good way to test how well they work.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

My homebirth high is coming down. I've been feeling sad and down the past couple of days. I had to stop taking my placenta capsules because I felt like I was coming down with something and E had a 24 hour thing. The instructions say to stop taking them if you get sick until you are better. I started taking them again today so, hopefully, I'll feel better soon. That's a good way to test how well they work.

I hope the capsules help.  I'm really counting on them to work for me, my mood swings and outbursts and tears were just overwhelming for both DH and I last time.  ((Hugs)).

Have you heard from your DH yet?  I hope he is alright.

AFM - Just straightening up today.  Have to install the carseat (DH is going to do that when he gets back from Lowes), do maybe 1 or 2 loads of wash for the birth/nursing clothes, and start packing an emergency transfer bag.  I wasn't going to, but I figure why not?  Plus it might be helpful to have a few things for me and the baby in one bag regardless.

Nothing new as far as ctx today.  Same old.  Maybe a bit more crampy but it could honestly be digestive or RLPs.  I feel heavy.  I was going to weigh myself this morning but I decided not to b/c I just don't care anymore.

[MarineWife]

I haven't heard anything yet. I'm sure he's ok because he wasn't part of that group and no uniforms have shown up at my door. I just wish he'd email or something just to let me know.

I think it's pretty normal to feel heavy at this point.

I never did get around to packing an emergency hospital bag. I had no idea what to put in it. Plus, I figured the hospital would have everything I needed so the bag is just for bringing comforts from home. That's never been important to me. I'm perfectly fine wearing a hospital gown and socks and my mom could have always come home and grabbed something if I really wanted it.

[MovingMomma]

I lost you guys!  I missed some notifications, inc. the one for the new thread & finally noticed it had been a while...  So here I am!  Still pregnant.   It's my due date today, the "official" date on Tues.  I overdid the errands on Friday (and if I have to go to the commissary again before I have this baby we're going to go broke .  I keep buying more and more so I'll be all stocked up!) and had ctx every 5 mins for an hour or so...when I finally had a chance to sit down they spaced right out.  Sat & today I woke up w/ctx every 10-20 mins both mornings, but they've petered out as the day went on. I've also been feeling more crampy and nauseous in general.  Baby is still posterior.  I need to do more to try to get her to turn, but I have a couple more things I want to do before I'm ready to get really serious about having the baby.  Hopefully I can finish those up tomorrow.  Tonight we're taking advantage of my mom being here and going on a date!  Cowboys & Aliens + dinner!  I sure hope I don't fall asleep in the movie...  

[MarineWife]

shannon ~ enjoy your date. things are moving along.

finally heard from sean. he was completely oblivious to the fact that i might be worried. i've been trying to wake D up all afternoon but he won't stay awake.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 
 finally heard from sean. he was completely oblivious to the fact that i might be worried. 

Whew, glad he's ok!  Typical man!! 

Did you just forget how sleepy new babies are or do you think he's sleeping too much?  LOL, I wouldn't wake a sleeping baby but that's me -- I don't like tempting fate!  LOL!

I had some really tough ctx early and started to get my hopes up.  Took a shower and now they're all fizzled out.  Sigh.  

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Did you just forget how sleepy new babies are or do you think he's sleeping too much?  LOL, I wouldn't wake a sleeping baby but that's me -- I don't like tempting fate!  LOL

i agree with this in general except when i'm just working on establishing my milk supply. i don't want him going more than 4 hours between feedings. even that seems like a long time to me in the beginning. i probably worry about that more than i need to because i got used to E nursing at least every hour in the beginning and having marathon nursings. A lot of times, D will only nurse for a couple of minutes and fall back to sleep. then he'll wake around 9 or 10 pm and be wide awake, just when the rest of us are getting into bed.

also, he sleeps in one long stretch in the middle of the day but is up more often at night. he doesn't stay awake long at night, although there have been a few nights when he's kept me up for over an hour, but he wakes every hour or two. if he's going to sleep 4 hours between nursings, i'd much rather it was at night. i'm hoping i can get him to stay awake more or at least wake more often during the day and sleep longer at night. does that ever work?

pretty soon you and shannon are going to be neck and neck.

[akind1]

MW: Gabe slept tons and we had a really hard time keeping him awake. I think so long as he's nursing well when he is, your supply should be fine. It would be nice if those long stretches were at night though!

Men are so oblivious! glad Sean is ok.

Question for you and Carrie: I'd love to make Dylan and Finn owl hats, as I get bored to death during the evenings and need something to do (MIL keeps house so clean and laundry so caught up it is ridiculous. nothing left for me to to!) do you want them a good size to wear this winter, like 6 month ish? and do you have color preferences, like pastels vs. earth tones or brights? (JJ: once you find out what you're having, be more than willing to do one for the Canadian baby too!). I'd love to get some more practice in, as prior to this, most of what I made were granny squares :)

Shannon and Carrie: maybe your babies will share a birthday! I know you are looking forward to meeting both of them and being done with the whole pregnancy/labor/birth thing and moving on to the new mama thing.

appointment today! now that I'm with a practice I really like and trust I am looking foward to it and not dreading it as much. And my doula is going with me, it's nice to see her in person.

Nothing else new here; I'm getting more braxton hicks lately, but I've been walking alot and need to drink more water. Right now though, I need coffee, and that is what I'm having!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by akind1 

Question for you and Carrie: I'd love to make Dylan and Finn owl hats, as I get bored to death during the evenings and need something to do (MIL keeps house so clean and laundry so caught up it is ridiculous. nothing left for me to to!) do you want them a good size to wear this winter, like 6 month ish? and do you have color preferences, like pastels vs. earth tones or brights? (JJ: once you find out what you're having, be more than willing to do one for the Canadian baby too!). I'd love to get some more practice in, as prior to this, most of what I made were granny squares :)

Shannon and Carrie: maybe your babies will share a birthday! I know you are looking forward to meeting both of them and being done with the whole pregnancy/labor/birth thing and moving on to the new mama thing.

appointment today! now that I'm with a practice I really like and trust I am looking foward to it and not dreading it as much. And my doula is going with me, it's nice to see her in person.

Nothing else new here; I'm getting more braxton hicks lately, but I've been walking alot and need to drink more water. Right now though, I need coffee, and that is what I'm having!

Squeee!  I *almost* asked if you would want to make one for Finn but didn't!!  I would LOVE a wintry sized one - yeah probably around 6 mo size.  I would love like chocolately brown and light blue.  Thank you sooo much!!

Shannon and I are in a dead heat here!  Wonder who will get to the finish line first!?  Haha! 

I'm so, so glad you're happy with your doc.  It makes SUCH a difference.  I so, so look forward to my weekly appointments (it's like a little ray of sunshine in my week) that I couldn't imagine not wanting to have the appt like some women are, when they are unhappy with their providers.  Nice that your doula will go with!  That's so helpful!

I too just poured myself some coffee.  Mm.  Definitely need some this morning!!

[akind1]

This is only my second visit, but still, I have noticed such a difference! From, "well, it's nice if you can VBAC, but . . ." to "we'll do everything we can to help you birth the way you want"

Unfortunately, doula had to cancel. her littlest (11 months I think) had a tongue or lip tie clipped last week and the incision looks infected. poor guy, but she will come to the next one I think.

Did you go for your walk? The heat index is like 104 here today, so it is inside time for us!

Oh- funny - I LOST a lb at this vist from my last one, but I am measuring 2 weeks ahead! how odd is that? (should say 2 weeks ahead of where they have me). at any rate, all looks good!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by akind1 

Did you go for your walk? The heat index is like 104 here today, so it is inside time for us!

I did go for my walk!  I'm glad I did, it was the only thing I really accomplished today.    I did set up the baby's changing table though, and got all the diapers clean and ready to go for when he decides to come.

There's only so much nesting I can do. 

Tonight I have to go over all the birth supplies with DH.  I have everything in bags as per my mw's instructions, in the right places of the house, and he has NO clue what is in the bags or where anything is.  The adapter is on the sink (it fits!  thanks for the heads up on that one Alysia!) and that's really all he's done so far.  So, going to go over all the supplies and what not with him so when I'm not capable he can help find things.

Otherwise feeling pretty good!  No signs of anything but that's ok.  He's not due for another week.  I'll get REALLY impatient then, LOL!
 

[akind1]

Carrie, yay on productivity!

my friend that's been on bedrest had her baby today - a girl weighing in at 8 lbs 10 oz - born at 37+1 I think.

I went back through my clothes stash for baby and I am a little concerned . . . I need some basics! I have 2 newborn onesies and one newborn outfit. maybe 10 sleepers/outfits for 0-3.  and a couple 0-3 onesies. everything else is 3-6 months +. At least I know what I need to stock up on at consignment sales!

I saw that fluff stash app, I wish it were free! I got a great deal on some newborn prefolds - 23 for $19, including shipping! they've been used as burp cloths, so I'll need to strip them probably (not washed like cloth diapers), but still a really great deal! so I have 23 GMD newborns, 6 bamboo newborn prefolds, 12-14 infant prefolds . . . about 11 or 12 covers for nb/small. and 5 AIOs (size small) - I think I'm set! I really hope so. does that seem like enough to get me to my mediums/OS?

MW: hope you are doing ok today . . .

Shannon, looking foward to that birth announcement!