Hi, everyone. I just stumbled on this site, and I'm so glad I did. My wife and I have a son who will start Kindergarten in a few weeks, but we've been trying for a second for three years now (with major breaks between due to crazy schedules, limited funds, heartache, etc.). We conceived our son 6 years ago (when I was 33) with our first IUI at the RE's office. It was a natural cycle (no meds), just monitoring at the RE's office and with OPKs at home. If I remember correctly, I tested at noon, and when I got the positive I called my RE. I think we had a 9am appointment the next morning. It worked, and we didn't know then just exactly how lucky we were.
Since then, we have done three IUIs with increasing levles of medication (because I was older) in 2008 (two singles and one back-to-back). Then in 2009 we did an IVF, and we did another in 2010. My RE labeled me older and a "poor responder," but otherwise there are no tests or diagnoses that would indicate a cause for secondary infertility. All this is to say that the lack of conception was really challenging and frustrating, as well as expensive. We still haven't let go of the hope of having a second baby, but time is running out. I can't shake the feeling that perhpas going low-tech old-school is the ticket. While it is counter to conventional medical wisdom (that IUIs and certainly IVFs are the most likely to be successful), it feels like a viable option to us.
So, we're going to attempt three home ICIs (at 39). We've never done this. I have read through the various threads (and searched for hours online), but I am hoping to get information specifically on the timing of using frozen sperm at home. Given what I remember about our IUI, the insemination was ~21 hours later. But, it was an IUI and there was less of a sperm viability issue as the swimmers were deposited directly into my uterus. The viability of both the egg as it travels down the fallopian tube and the swimmers in an ICI insemination concerns me re the timing. I've only started charting this month, but I'm pretty regular. I surged at approximately the right time, I have EWCM (although more would be better), but I don't see ferning (saliva). I just ordered a speculum because that would allow us to have valuable additional information, so hopefully we could have a concentration of positive fertility signs as a indication we are set to "go."
Do any of you lovely queer parents have stories about home ICI, specifically about timing? I would be so grateful! Thanks.