DS is 3.5, and since he's the only one I've got, I have no idea if he new behaviors are typical, or what to do with/about them whether they are or not.
It's hard to explain what he's doing, but I do know it's not "bad" per se. If I just say he's completely "bonkers", will anyone know what I mean? Cause that's the best way to describe it. His energy level seems to have shot up over night, and it mostly seems to manifest as physical interactions with the people around him. For example, he runs up and bashes into me, banging his head into whatever body part of mine is at that level at the time. When I wince in pain he's very apologetic and nurturing to me, and when I say he needs to be more gentle with me he says ok. But (and I know this is totally normal) he seems to forget and will do it again within 10 minutes. Other times he'll sort of want to climb all over me, tackling my head, hanging off my neck, squeeze my cheeks really hard etc. I think I could classify it all under "rough affection".
With DH it's a different story. He will wack, tug, grab and climb on him more aggressively. He'll growl, squeal, and shout as he does this. My husband's not really the rough-tumbling type, so it's not that he's modeling this kind of play (although I do think he tolerates it more, and will play along more than I will). Even when he's not trying to wrestle with DH, DS will literally run from one side of the room to the other, throwing his whole body into the wall/door/cupboard on either side. If he gets really wound up, he'll throw things or bang things repeatedly. He has a really hard time stopping the behavior, in spite of our efforts to redirect or explain that we don't like it, once it's escallated to this point, so it often ends up that someone gets pretty upset.
This rough, crazy behavior is often worse if there's an outsider around, which I think is pretty typical too. And he can get really excited with other kids and while he usually just wants to hug them or hold their hand, he will often do it too hard or too much, and they don't like it.
Then there's just the everyday stuff like when he's going from the refrigerator back to the kitchen table he might yell "bllllaaaaagggg!" and then run with his arms in the air and his head bobbing from side to side all the way back to the table, rip the chair out from under the table accidently knocking it over in the process, screech another time, fumble through righting the chair again, and finally climb up into it frantically. It seems like a lot of our normal daily tasks have been taken over by these spazz-attacks, and it makes getting things done really hard, not to mention being out in public. It's exhausting.
So, I kind of get it that this is probably all fairly normal, it's just that it seems more intense than what I observe other boys his age doing. He takes it farther, he is usually louder, he has a harder time settling down, and it's nearly constant lately.
I just wonder if there isn't something behind this erratic, spazzy behavior. I've played around with his diet since he does have food sensativities, but I can't pinpoint what the offending food might be. I've tried getting him more outside time, unstructured and free. I've also tried reasoning with him about my expectations of how quickly he gets his shoes on etc. I've tried giving him small things to focus on like that he can play with a friend, but absolutely must keep his hands off. And of course, there are times that I just kind of lose it and will shout "STOP RUNNING INTO ME!". I always feel bad about the latter because I know he's not trying to hurt me, but it can be so frustrating.
So, are there any activities that can help boys like this settle down, or feel more settled? Any ways of talking to him about it? Any ways of helping us to cope with it?
Many thanks, wise parents!