My dd1 just turned 11 and has liked the same boy for the past two years. He is a silly, goofy, charming young man and she is a smart, impulsive, easy going, tomboy type girl. In May he asked her to be his girlfriend and she of course said yes. She told me right away and I thought it sweet as they really enjoy hanging out together.
Well it turns out they were at a school pool party and all the kids in the class were pressuring them to kiss, so they did. Now from my understanding it was the same type of kiss I get every night when I tuck her into bed. She had a friend over when she told me and every thought about what kind of teenager she would be ran through my head but I remained calm. I told her that I was happy she shared that with me and asked that there would be no more kissing. She was fine with that, they had only done that to make others happy.
We discussed peer pressure and how this is the beginning of it and that she has to learn to make decisions that are right for her not everyone else. She is a follower type and I am worried about her. I know she likes to hang out with the boys because they are easier to be around but I hope that she can stand up for herself and not get taken advantage of.
Should I ask her to call off this boyfriend/girlfriend thing? Should I discourage her from hanging out with the boys? What are some of the things you tell dc's to shake off the peer pressure? Oh my I know this is just the beginning...