My DD is 3 months old and though we have no great trouble with bedtime I feel like I don't know what I SHOULD be doing. Thing is, we co-sleep and I feel like so much of the info out there seems...well, just not aimed at us.Â
During the day she naps - either in the sling, or if I nurse her to sleep by lying with her, or in the car. Not much of a pattern though she does tend to sleep for a bit longer in the afternoon. Much of it has to do with what we are doing - if we have to go somewhere (sling or car) she often sleeps. I try to match this to when I think she is ready for a sleep. Also, sometimes I take the sling off and can lay her down and she will sleep by herself. But we aren't at the point where I can lay her down awake and she will sleep. Is this ok? Some people have indicated she "needs to learn"...
In the beginning, I basically went to bed with her at 9 because by that point I'd managed to eat supper....and I was generally pretty tired. Sleep while the baby sleeps kind of thing. But going to bed at 9 meant nursing her for 45 minutes - 1 hour first. Now things are a little more sane and, as I said, I don't know what I should be doing. Should I be trying to get her down earlier by herself? What time?? Evenings are often hard - she only wants to nurse, and will cry if she just looks a DH! This could be also because she is tired. But she may also be tanking up a bit, and I worry a bit that if she doesn't she will wake up a lot more often. (she generally sleeps on a good night 4 hours, then 2 hour increments though the last few nights have been a bit wonky)Â
Heard about bedtime routine.....haven't been doing much yet. As I said, it is sometimes hard just to get supper made and eaten....but I'm thinking I should be trying that a bit more. I'd likes to work on this, just not sure what is best, Would love insight. Also, any good books that deal with bedtime from a co-sleeping angle??
