9 year old daughter obsessed with always noticing or talking about privates, sex, etc.

[springmother]

How do we tone this down??  She is constantly noticing, pointing out, talking about "innappropriate stuff".  Like if a woman is in tight clothes in a shop she will point it out.  Or saying that all boys have a bump in their pants, etc. 

It's is literally about every 10-15 minutes. this just started happening in the last month.

Of course there is nothing wrong with being curious, but we just want her to take it down a few notches.  Should we ignore it, directly talk about it, set limits, we're really at a loss here.

We have tried just taking it as normal conversation as if she is saying anything else, but it's just getting more and more.  When she was 3 she started repeating a swear word and we just completely ignored whatever she said and it went away fast.  Would that work here? 

Thanks!

[philomom]

At nine she needs to know that it is not polite to comment on folks' bodies. This is typical behavior of a three or four year old .. not a nine year old. I'd pull her aside in private and tell her very matter of fact to "cut it out".

[springmother]

Originally Posted by philomom 

At nine she needs to know that it is not polite to comment on folks' bodies. This is typical behavior of a three or four year old .. not a nine year old. I'd pull her aside in private and tell her very matter of fact to "cut it out".

It's commenting to us not to others.  Just pointing things out conversationally. 

[meemee]

how is she saying this? is she blurting it out in public talking to all of you or is it a whispered comment to you guys.

if she is blurting it out then yes - its like a 3 or 4 year old and you need to teach her about appropriate behaviour.

if she is telling you guys quietly - then its in confidence and i'd just go with it. she is noticing the world and saying it out to you guys. i would make this a teachable moment and say yes some people dress like that or...

has she has the lesson on the facts of life yet? has she seen anyone naked? 

depending on her past experience and how she is reacting this could be normal reaction. curiosity. and yes some kids are more intense than others. and therefore they are into something for a phase and then it is gone.

if she is doing it quietly then i'd be so happy she feels free enough to share that aspect with me.