Originally Posted by mambera
But even if I do have an adequate supply this time around I would rather use any extra I can pump to start a freezer stash, rather than giving it to the older child. Luckily my job is a *lot* more flexible now and I am hoping to be able to WAH a fair amount as well as bring the baby to some of my OH obligations - but I will still have to pump sometimes.
Still trying to think about when/what I should tell DD about the milk issue...
This statement is a little off as the older child creates their own supply. You have 1 baby (the infant) and each time they nurse it signals your body to make more milk (supply and demand), the same goes for the toddler... the more they are suckeling the more is being produced so really if your toddler is nursing they should be making their own milk, they are not "stealing" from the baby.
That being said it is GREAT and perfectly reasonable to put limits on the older childs nursing. I didn't do that soon enough with ds1 and was really drained physically and emotionally. He would latch clos to 100 times a day (I counted) and that is when I said enough is enough and started setting limits, it all became much more manageable at that point. I usually let the toddler have at it for the first few weeks as that helps to increase the supply then I cut them down significantly (the ammount depends entirely on the child). So they help bolster the supply, help with any engorgement, then you taper them off leaving any extra for the baby.
The adventures in tandem nursing is a really good book that I highly recommend!! I haven't read it in 7 yrs but it was very helpful then.
As far as waht to tell your older child about the baby and the milk depends on if you will be letting the older child nurse when the baby comes. I tell my dd that when boo comes she will bring her lots of new milk (makes her totally excited plus it is a positive thing that the baby will be bringing her), I also tell her that the baby will get more milk than she does and will get to have nanas more often because she can't eat food like pizza spaghetti, ice cream, etc.
If you choose not to tandem it is really important that you set the bar now and wean asap as you do not want a negative association with the new baby.
This is all strictly my opinion based on experience.