Both my parents are the kind of housekeepers that clean when necessary. This means the kitchen gets cleaned daily, the bathrooms are usually not too bad but that dust and laundry is something that gets sorted either when they need a special coloured t-shirt that is dirty, or when we are going to have guests.
Growing up, when deep cleaning for the arrival of guests, my parents would never say: "clean your room" or "clean the living room" but give me and my siblings tasks instead. Like "pick up your toys", "take out the trash", "get me the mop and bucket" etc. Since I had watched them do the cleaning several times, I knew what was involved when directed to "sweep the floor" or "pick up the magazines." My mum kept a running task list, when we grew up, when deep cleaning so she could cross things of that were done. She was never really that particular with things being perfect, but would help us with our sweeping techniques etc. and show us how to do it. Gently, with an amused laughter, and then let us try again.
Anyhow, how it has affected me? Hm. I think I've developed a healthy relationship to this whole keeping my home clean business. For one thing, I realise that a lone woman cannot keep on top of everything when having three children, a somewhat messy husband, two cats and a dog to clean up after (my family when growing up). Or well, she can, but at the cost of so much else like playtime with said children. So, I've learnt to direct my efforts into what truly matters. Which is keeping the toilet clean, wiping down all counters and tables daily and seeing to it that any stinky stuff gets cleaned or removed asap (especially bad food). It doesn't really matter that the floors gets a bit dirty between the weekly hooverings, nor does it matter that there's cat toys spread all over.
Though, it really does help that I am somewhat organised. Everything in my home has a place, so when it is time to clean up, it is just a matter of taking a basket and gather all the things that does not belong, clean and then put things back where they belong. Easy. I think many people simply have never got around to giving everything in their home a place. For instance, is there a hook for your children's bags somewhere? Or a box for all these things that just does not belong yet? That is really very important to me, since if I don't have a place for things that does not belong, they get placed all over, and then everything starts to unravel.