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Originally Posted by
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He thought that would be a good path for me because I have so much trouble talking about myself & my feelings so this way I wouldn't really have to focus on talking. Plus there is a large physical component to my issues. ..
It's holding me back a lot because I feel like I'm kind of vulnerable right now and I don't want to end up going down the wrong path because I'm desperate, you know? .....
. I also feel like a lot of talk therapy focuses on you, doing what's best for you, etc. but I feel I have a moral responsibility to always consider how my actions impact others, to forgive, etc.
Thank you for sharing more and clarifying. I feel like I understand better now. Up thread, I suggested TRE, and I still think it might be a good fit for you. It is a form of body work, but there aren't any woo-wooy aspects to it as there as to some forms of body work. You could check the web page and see if there is a teacher in your area (group classes where I live are only $10 a pop, which makes it far more accessible that many forms of therapy. It is very powerful, and it is really nice to work with a teacher, being to ask questions, have the energy of being a group class but not having to say anything or ever tell any one what is causing you emotional pain. If there isn't a teacher in your area, there is a book and DVD so you could easily practice on your own at home.
I'm not trained it in, but I've been to classes, read the book, practiced, and work with a trained TRE teacher on how to incorporate aspects of it in the yoga classes I teach. If you have any questions, just ask. If you have questions I can't answer, I can ask a qualified teacher.
Here is a clip from my earlier post with the link:
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Originally Posted by
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there is a style of body work called Trauma Releasing Exercise that has that some of the same benefits, but without the new agey stuff. There's a DVD, so it's something you could do at home, by yourself, without having to call or meet new people (I know how difficult that can be when we are in the dark place)
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here's a link about TRE http://www.traumaprevention.com./
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As far as the fear of going down the wrong path, it's OK to try something, decide it isn't for you, and then try something else. Where you are right now isn't a good place. You can move to a different place and see what it is like there, and then move again. Even if they middle place you try isn't where you end up wanting to stay, could it be worse than where you are right now? What if it is only a little better? What if it clears your head just enough that you can figure out which way to go? Imagine that you are standing in the middle of a park, but you are really not having a good time. The sun is beating down on you, there's no place to sit, the ground has no grass because it's all been worn away. So you walk over to a shelter and sit at the table in the shade. But then you realize that the shelter is kinda dirty and not comfortable, but from there you can see a clump of trees. So you walk to the tress, and find that from there you can see a beautiful stream. It's all the same park. When you don't like the part you are in, you can walk to a different part.
I completely understand your point about talk therapy. You want to take care of yourself, yet you have clear convictions about how to treat others and think of others. When one is in crises, we must take care of ourselves first or we have nothing to give. The situation you are in right now is a bit like some one in an airplane that is in trouble -- you gotta put on your own air mask before you can help anyone else. Even when traveling with a small child, you gotta put on your own mask first. The reason for this is that if you don't take care of yourself first, some one else will end up taking care of you. So take care of yourself FIRST.
Peace
He feels it too, and I'm so worried he won't hang on for the ride...
