I don't usually post here, though I sometimes read. I have a seven year old who probably has Asperger's but has not been diagnosed. He's behind in being able to relate to peers and adults and I really want to help him with social skills. He's homeschooled for a variety of reasons (so no IEP) but he does see kids every day in various classes or activities. He has a 5 year old brother with whom his play looks completely normal (and they play well all the time) but he seems not to know how to act with other kids no matter how often he's with them. He's very verbal, and when he meets adults they mostly focus on how "smart" (I hate the label) he is rather than the fact that he doesn't know how to take turns in conversations or express empathy for various situations. He's a bookworm and introvert, but so am I. I think my childhood and young adult life would have been easier had I had better social skills.
So where do I start? Therapy? Some sort of evaluation? Books? What has worked for others? I don't want to change him but I do want to give him better tools for social interaction should he choose to use them.