Sick of being sick! Making me feel so depressed. Anyone else out there?

[Mothermohawk]

Ok, so this is my 2nd pregnancy. With my first I had bad morning sickness and passed out twice (was told that was just a pregnancy thing by the OB) but it didn't start until 8 weeks and lasted until maybe 12. This pregnancy has been horrible! Since week 5 up to now (week 8) I have been so sick and passing out A LOT! I've been up chuck'in at least once a day, but for the last week haven't, but feel this extreme nausea like I'm just about to. Then I feel so hungry, like I'm going to die if I don't eat. If I don't eat I get sick, if I do eat all food is so gross to me I just get sick as well. I can't touch any vegetables and most fruit. It's like my body is totally rejecting everything healthy! I've made sure I'm eating small meals all day and I drink LOTS of water, but still pass out or feel so close to it, to the point I can't sit up all day. It's really killing me because I can't do anything! All I can do is move from room to room to watch my 2y.o., but can't really interact with him since I'm ether in the bathroom or needing to lay down. I can't make him or I anything to eat (thankfully my hubby has pre-made snacks for us so I don't have to do much), can't play with him, can't go outside, to friends or have friends over for him, can't clean the house (and it's bad!), hardly able to get dressed, and I know this is bad, but I haven't even made an appointment for this since I can't drive (not safe if I never know when I'll pass out) and my husband can't take time off to take me. I love to be outdoors, and am a major horse lover and can't even go to our backyard to see my horses  I had to quit my job working with horses because of this. Sorry, hate to whine, it's just all this is making me feel very depressed and I'm becoming so resentful about the pregnancy (I feel really horrible for that). I just wanted to know if there are any other out there that are going through the same or have before.  

[ChiaraRose]

Oh, you poor mama!!! I do get extremly sick witout throwing up so far in this pregnancy and have very low blood pressure. But I do not or at least have not passed out. I think the first thing is the go to the doc or midwife and talk about it because it seems very extreme. My dh also can't take time off and travels and it sucks so badly:(( Do you have a babysitter? Could you get a mother;s helper if not, so someone can come over and take your child to the park, or outside  for a couple of hours to get some energy out and relieve some of your guilt? Do you go to church and ask there for help? It seems bad right now for you lo, but it is only a couple of weeks (hopefully) and it will just be blimp on the big picture.

Can you sit outside in a chair, so you can see your horses and your child can play around you, can dh fill up a kiddie pool in the morning and you can sit, rest and watch?

Many, many hugs to you, I hope it will all get better VERY soon!

ETA, you said your husband can't drive you to the doc. How about a friend? Or a taxi??

[Kiyla]

Originally Posted by Mothermohawk 

Ok, so this is my 2nd pregnancy. With my first I had bad morning sickness and passed out twice (was told that was just a pregnancy thing by the OB) but it didn't start until 8 weeks and lasted until maybe 12. This pregnancy has been horrible! Since week 5 up to now (week 8) I have been so sick and passing out A LOT! I've been up chuck'in at least once a day, but for the last week haven't, but feel this extreme nausea like I'm just about to. Then I feel so hungry, like I'm going to die if I don't eat. If I don't eat I get sick, if I do eat all food is so gross to me I just get sick as well. I can't touch any vegetables and most fruit. It's like my body is totally rejecting everything healthy! I've made sure I'm eating small meals all day and I drink LOTS of water, but still pass out or feel so close to it, to the point I can't sit up all day. It's really killing me because I can't do anything! All I can do is move from room to room to watch my 2y.o., but can't really interact with him since I'm ether in the bathroom or needing to lay down. I can't make him or I anything to eat (thankfully my hubby has pre-made snacks for us so I don't have to do much), can't play with him, can't go outside, to friends or have friends over for him, can't clean the house (and it's bad!), hardly able to get dressed, and I know this is bad, but I haven't even made an appointment for this since I can't drive (not safe if I never know when I'll pass out) and my husband can't take time off to take me. I love to be outdoors, and am a major horse lover and can't even go to our backyard to see my horses  I had to quit my job working with horses because of this. Sorry, hate to whine, it's just all this is making me feel very depressed and I'm becoming so resentful about the pregnancy (I feel really horrible for that). I just wanted to know if there are any other out there that are going through the same or have before.  

Oh darlin...I feel your pain.  I am in the same boat minus passing out.  Zofran doesn't even help.  OB said it will probably get worse:(  The only thing I can say (if your religious at all) is believe God is with you and helping with this situation.  That is the only thing keeping my sanity right now.  Being in bed 24/7 with the extreme ickies is unexplainable...especially having a little one at home.  My heart goes out to you and know that another pregnant momma is going through it with you.  HUGS!!
 

[Lolafanana]

Me too!  this is my 3rd and my first 2 pregnancies were blissful throughout!  i am miserable with this one.  Severe sciatica where I cannot walk by the end of the day, i am always tired (extremely), cranky and just feel awful all the time!  The sciatica is depressing me as I am a very active individual and i can't even do yoga.  horrible.

[lunabin]

I've been getting sick up to 4 times a day since week 6 (I'm 9 weeks now), and also have a 2 year old at home.  I can totally relate to how you're feeling!  Though I haven't been passing out, I frequently get light headed and my vision blacks out for a few seconds.  I barely eat, let alone cook, and have been getting muscle twitches in my legs that I'm sure is from poor nutrition.  While I'm working, it also hard, because I completely stopped eating, and explaining it to coworkers was a challenge while I was keeping it quiet.  

My midwife did recommend taking vitamin B6, which helped, but didn't solve the problem.  So yesterday I started Zofran.  I noticed it working in about an hour, and was actually able to eat a meal and play with my DD!  If you can't make it to your doctor/midwife, I would absolutely call them and tell them how bad it is.  If you are okay taking a category b medication, then it may be worth considering.  

Otherwise, this phase will hopefully be transient.  In only a matter of weeks things should get better, and your child will surely not be traumatized by this brief period of time.  And I think it's okay to even feel resentment at this point...  Having a child, you already know that the feelings after you give birth will completely outweigh the pains of pregnancy and childbirth, so go ahead and be aggravated and annoyed and resentful.  You're justified.  Having to take a time out from all the things you do in life (that perhaps even define you) sucks, and you don't seem to be blaming the unborn, but simply the situation.  It sucks.  :(    

[cameragirl]

I'm not there this time around, but I really feel for you ladies. I went through that when pregnant with DD. It can be so tough, and people around you don't always understand just how exhausting and mentally taxing it can be. Zofran stopped most of the vomiting for me, but it did not stop the near constant gagging. Sometimes getting re-hydrated with a saline and multivitamin drip can really help. If you're losing a lot of weight or getting dehydrated, make sure to make it clear to the doctor or midwife just how badly it affects you. I hope that you'll be feeling better soon.

[shimmering]

Hey, I am so there. This is my first and for me too it started at about 6 weeks. Well it isn't as bad as it is for you. But at 12 weeks I am so tired and sick of it. I feel nauseous all day, but never puke. I hate all kinds of foods and smells. And nothing makes it better, no soda, lemon candy or nothing. Did it get better for anyone? If you had it, when did it get better for you? I am not depressed yet, but I have started hating it. And its really irritating.

[lunabin]

That's kind of how it was for my first, nausea 24/7, and it let up around week 13 or 14.  I hear that that is when the sex organs develop and is a common time for the symptoms to remit.  The second trimester can be MUCH better, and although you may have to start wearing maternity clothes, generally I remember feeling pretty good.  

Unfortunately, I'm not one of those people who loves being pregnant.  I just feel out of sorts all the time.  But, it gets a lot more exciting when you do get to buy a new wardrobe, can feel the baby move around, find out the sex (if you so choose), and start planning and preparing the nursery (bonus if you get a baby shower)!  

I think it really helps to focus on these other aspects, especially if the symptoms don't let up.  I'm with you, though, right now.  I am tired of feeling like crap, and just wish I could be more functional (especially for my DD).  We're going on vacation next week, and I really hope I don't get too sick while we're away.  

[shimmering]

Wow!

I was on vacation for the past two weeks. And it was great. Well I was at my sis in laws place so didn't have to cook and clean :D. Now the smells in my kitchen wanna make me hurl. Hmm....I am just waiting for this nausea to get over so that I can start enjoying my pregnancy. I am waiting for the phase where on the name of cravings I can hog on food ;). But right now eating just enough is getting to be difficult.

Well all the best on your vacation. I hope you have a good time.