I've got another very involved one, but it didn't start out that way. Once we heard the heart beat for the first time, it really seemed to sink in a little more for DH. My mom is a MW and she gave us a Doppler so it's fun for him to use it and find the heart beat every few weeks. Any initial lack of involvement was probably a mix of disbelief and apprehension about becoming parents. It is definitely "babybabybaby" ALL THE TIME in our house so he really couldn't escape it for long haha. The Birth Partner by Peggy Simkin has been a nice read for him, I would recommend it. He plans to come to every MW appointment he can, and he also plans to catch the baby, cut the cord, and help our MW with the newborn exam. Once the baby gets bigger and can hear and starts moving around more I foresee a lot of talking and singing and guitar-playing oriented to my belly.
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My DH is very involved. He's been talking to the baby since I got pregnant, he lays his head on my stomach and tells the baby he loves he/she, etc. Melts my heart. He loves hearing the updates of how the baby is growing. He told everyone that he works with and everyone we're out to dinner with that I'm pregnant pretty early on, where I told only a select few at work until last week. We work at the same company, on the same campus, and in the same division (large company). He meets with people in my organization a ton too, so I was a little nervous that he would let it slip out. He comes to all my prenatal appointments and is excited that he gets to do art at our Birthing From Within class in November. Now, I'm gushing, sorry about that. :)
My DH is also very sensitive and intuitive. He knew I was pregnant before I did. We kinda have a role reversal, where he's the sensitive one and I can be emotionally clueless at times. On the flip side, he's definitely very masculine.
I think it can be difficult for men to get involved in pregnancy, especially this early, since they don't have the symptoms and its sort of an abstract concept until baby is born. Especially since its not his culture to be involved, like you said. That would make it rough to not have him understand how exhausting pregnancy can be. Hugs.
Aww (bolded part) that's precious!! As for my own DH... he's been mroe involved in planning the nursery/baby gear which is kind of weird I guess. It started when he picked where we're having our baby registry (he works in technology and found out about www.myregistry.com which has a really cool iphone app that lets you scan items in any store and add them to one registry and do a price comparison right there to see if it's cheaper anywhere else. He's obsessed! He's also been reading consumer report type stuff to find the best high chair, baby moniter, stroller etc... I'm so glad he likes doing that kind of stuff haha because I sure don't. I'm not really showing yet so he can't "feel" the baby and I think dealing w/ physical objects like the stuff helps him feel more connected.
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I just realized that he's been talking to the baby through my belly button. I told him that my belly button isn't attached to the baby at all. He said the skin is the thinest there so its like a mega phone to the baby. Hahaha!
I have the my registry app too, haven't used it too much but I like the website.