I'm hoping to refine my 'gentle intactivism' approach. Please help! The scenario: an acquaintance reveals in conversation that he/she plans on circing their soon-to-be-born son. Having read and researched widely on the topic (and having an intact son myself), I tend to feel strongly against RIC. I generally assume this person is un-informed. (Perhaps this is presumptuous, but most parents I know of who chose to circ their sons admit to doing no research on it). As a result, my conscience cannot let this opportunity pass by without at least planting the seed of doubt. But sometimes I am just at a loss as to what to say, and so I don't say anything, and then feel regretful later.
So, if you have a very short, non-judgmental, non-pushy spiel, what is it? If you want to provide someone just one link (again, not pushy or gory--just enough to get someone to think twice, and explore the topic more on their own), which site would you choose?
Today I pushed past my reservations and awkward feelings when talking with a male co-worker, and just made a brief remark about how there is a lot of misinformation surrounding this topic. For the link, I shared the Circ Decision Maker. I thought of this because it's easy to remember and has a lot of good info, and most importantly, encourages you by design to identify your reasoning. I feel okay about the resource I shared (though, of course, also open to suggestions!), but I am not yet comfortable with how to approach the topic itself. I'd like any suggestions of what kind of remarks you might use to open the topic a little. RIC isn't necessarily something I care to get into a lengthy discussion about in casual conversation with an acquaintance, so the shorter the better.