Slow weaning or fast weaning??

[Mama4life14]

My son is now 20 months old and still nursing. He is mostly weaned for daytime, sometimes when he gets bored he asks for it, which I try to distract away from. But he still nurses to sleep for his nap and for bedtime. (We bedshare with him) I don't mind him nursing to sleep because it is quite easy for me (no bouncing or rocking) and it's a nice way to relax after a busy day. But when he turns 2 I am planning on weaning him off altogether. Husband and I both agree it's time.

So what I'm looking for is some experience from other Mama's. Has anyone done slow weaning over a span of 4 months? Does it even work? Or is it best to just drastically do it when he turns 2? I tried night weaning when he was around 14 months old because I was told by a dentist that his cavities were from night nursing. I did research and found out it's not, but that's a whole different story. So the night weaning never stuck, I quit after a week because it was too hard on him and me. But this time I think it will be better because he can understand a bit more, but I am preparing for the worst.

I was thinking I would start by trying to get him to nap without it, then after a month or so, start eliminating the night nursings one by one. (before bed being last)

Any kind advice?

[BananaBreadGirl]

So many changes for kids around that time: for us it was a "big boy bed" and starting potty training. We are weaning, I think (I'm pregnant and not producing much anymore so he cut down a lot on his own, and I'm not really offering anymore). So, for that reason alone I would say very slow. 

The first time my son skipped his bedtime nursing I had conflicting feelings, like, should I try to skip every night now (he was still pretty attached to morning)? But that sounded too stressful for both of us. He nurses maybe 2/3 of bedtimes now and I might switch to having DH put him to bed a little more often (he's very unlikely to ask if I'm not around).