How long will you wait to tell people you are pregnant? - Page 2

[chapluqa]

Thanks for asking this question!

I'm pondering this issue at the moment, as I just got my first-ever BFP about a week ago.  We haven't told anyone IRL yet, but it's becoming increasingly difficult for me not to just call up my parents and good friends to share the good news. I'm a sharer by nature, I think nearly everyone we know has heard that we've been trying to conceive!

By chance I will be visiting some good friends (two couples) in another city next week, and because I hardly ever get to see them in person, I think I will have to tell, even though I'll only be in the 7th week. My parents live overseas, but we are going to visit them in September so I think I'll wait and share the news in person with them, when I'll be around 9 weeks along, and of course we'll skype DH's parents to tell them as well.  It's a bit odd to tell our friends before our parents but they've been very supportive while we were ttc and also both couples are currently expecting, so it will be awesome to tell them that we're joining that club.

Maybe because it's my first-ever pregnancy I'm so afraid that it might not stick so I suppose that's why we aren't telling anyone we know here where we live. We don't have very close friends here and I think it would be super-uncomfortable to have to 'un-tell' them if something happened. So I think we'll wait until we're back from our trip (which is just at the end of the first trimester) to make our 'official' announcement to our local circle.

[wanderinblues]

i will definitely tell my parents and few close friends right away. 

the thing is, most people know we are TTC anyway, so when they ask if i am pregnant yet, i won't be able to lie. it's not me sharing though, it's DP! he tells EVERYBODY! i am a private person and would probably keep it to myself apart from telling my mom but he is pretty excited and just seems to want to tell the world lol.

so i think we will tell only those people who we see a lot and who we are close with right away and wait a couple months(?) to be totally public with the news.

[pregnova]

Always an interesting question. With our first, we waited until 13 weeks and then told EVERYONE. lol...I had a horrible doctor the first few weeks who managed to convince us that we would be miscarrying at any moment, not to mention my morning sickness made it literally AWFUL to visit anyone...and, you know, it's that sort of news you want to break in person ;-)

This go around, no one knows we are ttc, no one expects it, and we don't even know when we might be seeing family next. Ideally, I'd like to wait a long while...I'm going into this pregnancy knowing exactly what I want out of the birth, pregnancy experience, ect... and I think it will be important to me for this to be a private affair for quite a while. 

But, everyone is different!

[WaitingForKiddos]

DD, the day I got my BFP, 9 dpo, we told family. 6 weeks we told everyone else.
DS, told close family at 4 weeks, the rest of the family at 12 weeks, friends at about 14 weeks.
This pregnancy....we'll I'm 9 weeks tomorrow and all of 3 people know!

[Belia]

With my son we told immediate family right away after the BFP- it was Christmas and my sister was in from out-of-town, so it seemed like too good of an opportunity to pass up.  Extended family was informed when I was about 9 weeks because I was in the hospital with complications and had to miss a family funeral.  I needed a super good excuse for that!!!

If we get pg again, I will pretty much have to tell people right away, simply because I am expecting some pretty severe complications again and I will need a TON of help, both to survive and to help take care of my toddler.  I expect to be pretty incapacitated.

So in other words, my "We're expecting!" announcement won't be the stereotypical joyous sharing of good news- it will be a fire alarm going off and "all hands on deck."  I don't think I will have the luxury of waiting for a good time or ultrasounds.

[sissy004]

We will probably tell my parents, maybe our siblings and a few VERY close friends that know we are TTC right away, but not sure we trust his parents not to tell the rest of the family! We have no past experience with pregnancy, but have seen too many friends and coworkers miscarry. We won't go public with the pregnancy until we know there is a heartbeat, I've heard chances of miscarriages goes way down after that. I just hope that I don't have bad morning sickness and give it away early!

This is our second month TTC, 6 days until AF is scheduled to arrive and I have a few symptoms which make me feel I could be pregnant BUT it could just be wishful thinking.