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Ultrasound - yes or no?

post #1 of 37
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With my last pregnancy I didn't have any, but this time I can't make up my mind. On the one hand, an anatomy scan before a HB would be nice, and I've been feeling rather apathetic about my whole pregnancy so far so seeing the baby and knowing the gender might help with that. On the other hand.....I just don't want to. No particular reason, although I suspect it has a lot to do with just dealing with the medical establishment in general. I do believe there is a slight risk, but honestly don't think one scan, especially at 25ish weeks, is the end of the world. My MW really doesn't care either way, but we don't have a completely solid due date, and I've been measuring a little small, so I thought maybe I should. Not that dating is terribly accurate at this point, anyway. My insurance will cover it 100%, though. I just made an appointment for Friday afternoon, but I'm still not sure I want to go.

 

Anyone else who hasn't had an ultrasound yet/doesn't plan to have one? Am I completely nuts here? I just really don't want to go. Like toddler, arms crossed, stomping my feet, don't want to. But for some reason I made the appointment...

post #2 of 37

Pregnancy 1 - had 2 ultrasounds, 1 early and then 1 where we found out her gender

 

Pregnancy 2 - had 1 ultrasound where we found out her gender

 

Pregnancy 3 - no ultrasound

 

Pregnancy 4 - no ultrasound until labor when he had to be turned - we did not find out the gender until he was born

 

Pregnancy 5 - several ultrasounds including at the high-risk OB

 

Pregnancy 6 (this one) - I am very high risk and have had 6 or so ultrasounds so far - though I am not seeing the high-risk OB this time for various reasons.

 

It is fun to shop for baby clothes ahead of time, but it was also very exciting not finding out the gender until the baby was born.  All things being equal, I would opt NOT to have an ultrasound.  Though I have enjoyed getting to see this little one and the reassurance that she is doing well, I always feel bad subjecting her to the ultrasound. 

 

 

post #3 of 37

I'd get it if for no other reason than seeing them on the screen!  Even if you don't find out the sex, it gives the whole pregnancy a different feel having seen their sweet little face and movements, also the reassurance of things being on track.  But, of course, if you really are feeling that stubborn about it (and you are not high risk) then don't get it.  ::shrugs::  In the long run, it probably doesn't matter.    Hang in there!

post #4 of 37

I could have written your post, OP!  I feel exactly the same about it. I just don't want to. Some of it is mild concern over the effects on the baby, and some of it is not wanting to go and deal with the place that would do it.  I'm having a UC and have been doing my own prenatal care though, so my insurance doesn't even know I'm pregnant.

 

I have never found out the sex. In 4 pregnancies, I've had only 1 ultrasound (with the first, at 20 weeks, for dating- because I had only just found out I was pregnant).  I thought I might like to know with this one, but it turns out... I didn't want to know badly enough to actually go and do it.  If my husband felt strongly about finding out, I would go, but otherwise... meh.  I'll meet this baby and find out then if it's a boy or girl just like I did the others.

post #5 of 37

I got 2 last time (20 week standard, and one at the end as part of a biophysical profile that wrongly diagnosed my son with IUGR...). Did not find out gender.

 

Not planning on getting an ultrasound this time. We don't have insurance, don't want to find out the gender, and I think there are some risks or unknowns to getting one, not to mention a lot of false positives where something looks wrong or suspicious and then after a ton more testing ($$$ we don't have) or waiting it turns out to be fine.

post #6 of 37

This is my first pregnancy and I had one ultrasound at 20 weeks just for the heck of it. Hubby wanted to find out the gender and I was really having difficulty with apathy up to that point too, so I ended up really having a great time seeing the baby and connecting with her in that way. I'm 100% happy we found out the gender ahead of time and were able to have that reassurance that she looks perfectly healthy and my placenta and such are ideally positioned. However, we ended up having another ultrasound a few weeks after that because the doctor wasn't able to get one scan of her heart that he wanted during the first U/S because she wouldn't move into the right position... so we just went along with it. We ended up getting some priceless 3D photos at that time out of the blue, but I kind of regret having gotten more than one ultrasound. It wasn't necessary if you ask me. The doctor wasn't even concerned that anything would be wrong with her heart. I didn't realize at the time that ultrasounds had such an effect on the baby until I read this poster in my chiropractor's office and I wanted to cry. Maybe I'm just paranoid now, but I don't want to subject my current or future babies to any more than one U/S in utero now that I know it stresses out the baby. greensad.gif I'm still all for that one anatomy ultrasound, though! smile.gif I honestly couldn't have felt this connected to the baby if we hadn't done it. I've had such a difficult time during pregnancy, I'd be out of my MIND if I didn't have that little pick-me-up.

 

Do whatever feels right for you!!! You're not nuts at all. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with or feel is unnecessary. It's your baby, your body, your pregnancy!

post #7 of 37

Meesh- that was me too.  I was going to go as natural as possible this pregnancy and forgo the u/s.  But my apathy and general depressed mood about the pregnancy was not good so I decided to get one early on to see if I could get my head in the game better and deal with the m/s better.  It sort of helped, but looking back I could have done without it- only time improved my mood.  Then we debated and debated about the anatomy scan.  We knew we didn't want to find out the gender so really it was to see if everything was healthy and get some pictures.  If I'm perfectly honest with myself, though, it was more for the pictures.  I was feeling badly that dd an ds both have u/s pics of them but then poor number three won't.  I just don't want to go into this leaving #3 out of things.  I know that I can't do everything the same with #3 as I have with the first two, but I can strive to make some things the same.  Anyway, I am glad that we got the pictures, but the experience was not great.  We had to take both the kids with us and dh had to hold a crying ds the whole time and dd kept doing things she should have been doing.  It was largely annoying and made dh mad b/c he finally had to leave the room with ds when he wouldn't calm down.  I didn't enjoy the process even a fraction of the amount I enjoyed dd's u/s. 

 

So my feeling on the matter is, go with your gut and if you think it won't really be worth it then don't go, you're probably right.

post #8 of 37
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That's pretty much how I feel, too, Jaimee. We have no US pics with DS, so I'd feel weird if both of the other two had them (I had the anatomy scan with DD). And I know there's no way DS will sit through it. DD maybe; she really wants to know the gender. So does DH, which is pretty much the only reason I've even considered it. I don't want to know the gender, but I strong-armed my way on that last time, so I thought maybe I'd give in and find out. And it would be easier to be able to buy some clothes, etc.

 

I'm still considering cancelling the appointment, honestly. We'll see.

post #9 of 37

I didn't have any ultrasounds with DS, and I never wanted any.  I was never worried that there was anything "wrong" with him, and it was wonderful finding out his sex at birth.

 

This time I felt differently.  I had to/ chose to have 3 early ultrasounds (5, 8, and 12 weeks) because of a huge ovarian cyst that was giving me trouble early on.  I strongly felt that the danger that a 10cm cyst posed to my baby was a lot greater than ultrasound exposure.  

 

Then I decided to have the 20-week ultrasound for a few reasons.  First, I decided that an anatomy scan would be a good idea.  Second, up until then, I was having a really hard time with the reality of my pregnancy not sinking in.  I got pregnant so fast that I didn't really believe I was going to have a baby.  Not that I was worried something was going to go wrong, just that I couldn't picture myself holding my baby.  I didn't know if having another ultrasound would help, but I thought it might.  Third, I had a dream where I found out I was having another boy and I was upset.  This dream made me feel really guilty because I didn't think I should have a preference.  DH and I both thought it would be good to find out the sex so I would have time to get used to the idea if it was a boy and if I was really upset about it.

 

As it turns out, having the ultrasound and finding out the sex did help immensely in making the pregnancy real for me (starting to feel regular movement helped a lot too, though, I think).  I'm glad I got it. :)

 

But I say go with your gut.  If you strongly feel that you don't want this ultrasound, don't get it, and don't let anyone pressure you into it.  I'm a big believer in following what your body and your instincts tell you about a situation.

post #10 of 37
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So I decided to  go through with it. It's a boy! My DD burst into tears when she found out, lol. She seems to have gotten over it fairly quickly, but I am glad we found out now so she has some time to adjust to the idea of another brother. Poor thing really, really wanted a sister.

 

Baby looked good, measured bigger than I expected (great, I get to pop out another 9 lb-er), but did not appreciate the ultrasound very much. And there was an awkward moment where the US tech told me a horror story about a homebirth mom in our community who ended up contracting Strep A and losing all her limbs. (I've met her; she was colonized with Strep A, didn't know it, giving birth gave it a way in; would've happened no matter where she gave birth.) Other than that, and the fact that the kids screamed in the lobby with DH most of the time, lol, it wasn't too bad.

post #11 of 37

Hmmm... thats a good question. I think if you didnt have one before with you last, why spend the money on co pays and all that jazz. If I had never had one I might not get it. I have a 3d today, which i didnt have with any other pregnancy, I was very disappointed with the quality of it. I dont feel that I would be missing anything.

post #12 of 37

I wouldn't get one unless I felt strongly that I should for some reason.  I am against unnecessary testing -- not worth the stress on the baby and the parents, as a pp said, a misdiagnosis could result in a worry-filled pregnancy -- which isn't healthy for any of you.

 

That said, if you think it will help you connect with your baby/pregnancy and enjoy it more, then I think that's reason enough to go for it.

 

Both of my pregnancies I planned home births, had no ultrasounds, and went into labor at 35 weeks.  With my first I allowed them to do an ultrasound when I arrived at the hospital in labor (I didn't want to know the gender, though).  With my second I refused the ultrasound.

post #13 of 37

My two cents...  Yes for the following reasons:

 

1.  I am planning a birth center birth, and I feel reassured knowing that the baby passed the anatomy scan with flying colors.  Placenta nice and high, cord looks good, no obvious heart or other birth defects, etc. 

2. After a difficult pregnancy (no complications, just lots of unpleasant symptoms) and a prior loss, I really allowed myself to get excited about this baby after the ultrasound.  It was magical to see her swimming around in there, and it really helped me and my husband start the bonding process.  Somehow more so than the ultrasound I had in my easy first pregnancy.

 

Everyone is different, of course.  And it helped that the birth center arranges for a traveling tech to come to their office once a week so I didn't have to mess with going somewhere else.

post #14 of 37

Congrats on your baby boy!  Your poor dd, though... I know that's how my dd will be, too, if we end up having another boy.

post #15 of 37
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So I decided to  go through with it. It's a boy! My DD burst into tears when she found out, lol. She seems to have gotten over it fairly quickly, but I am glad we found out now so she has some time to adjust to the idea of another brother. Poor thing really, really wanted a sister.

 

Baby looked good, measured bigger than I expected (great, I get to pop out another 9 lb-er), but did not appreciate the ultrasound very much. And there was an awkward moment where the US tech told me a horror story about a homebirth mom in our community who ended up contracting Strep A and losing all her limbs. (I've met her; she was colonized with Strep A, didn't know it, giving birth gave it a way in; would've happened no matter where she gave birth.) Other than that, and the fact that the kids screamed in the lobby with DH most of the time, lol, it wasn't too bad.


Sorry, I somehow missed this when I posted earlier.  I'm glad you got some clarity about the size, etc.  Sorry the tech was so unprofessional!  Geesh!

 

My dd only wanted girls too, but she totally adores her little brother.  She's 4.5 and he's almost 2 and they play so nicely much of the time.  There are few things as amazing and wonderful as sibling love.

 

post #16 of 37

Hey, your post made the featured threads on the Mothering homepage! 

post #17 of 37
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Cool! I didn't even see that!

post #18 of 37

What did the poster in your chiropractor's office say? I wasn't really able to find any reliable statement on risks last pregnancy, although I didn't find terribly many reassurances they were safe, either. My OB kept promising he'd show me some research on how innocuous they were, but never came through.

post #19 of 37

I had two ultrasounds with the first pregnancy, I didn't know anything about them and never researched them. I'm avoiding all ultrasounds this time around, I wrote about the reasons why here. We're not finding out the gender and we're comfortable with that. For me personally when the baby started kicking at all times of day like crazy, any hint of apathy went away. I measure small with all pregnancies, but I'm 5'2" and 100 lbs - it's silly for them to say I should be bigger!

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I had two ultrasounds with the first pregnancy, I didn't know anything about them and never researched them. I'm avoiding all ultrasounds this time around, I wrote about the reasons why here. We're not finding out the gender and we're comfortable with that. For me personally when the baby started kicking at all times of day like crazy, any hint of apathy went away. I measure small with all pregnancies, but I'm 5'2" and 100 lbs - it's silly for them to say I should be bigger!



Wow, thanks for compiling all that research!

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