This past weekend ex called CYS on me. He told them that I had a deplorably messy house with animal feces lying around; that my son was not enrolled in school; that I had a history of drug use; that the kids had elevated lead levels; that I was not giving the kids medical and dental care. He was basically stretching and twisting the truth to make me seem horrible.
My son was homeschooled for last year, but he will be doing a public cyber charter school this year. Ex knows this, and has expressed some concerns about homeschooling, but has otherwise gone along with it (that is why we are doing cyber school this year.) Plus, my son is 7, under the compulsory school age here (8yrs). My son has a young chicken that he hatched from an egg. It is usually outside or in a box in his room, but we let it run around in his room Sat., while we were out of the house, and I didn't clean it immediately. My kitchen was on the messy side, the dishes needed to be done, but not to the point of being deplorable. I haven't done drugs in years and years, and when I did it was with him. While I choose not to vaccinate (something ex has gone along with), and my daughter has bad cavities, I do take my children to both the doctor and the dentist (the elevated lead levels were addressed and are no longer an issue).
For years we have been working things out fairly well outside of the courts, so this just seems rash and out of place. He has a history of drug abuse, but has claimed to be sober for over a year (and has pretty much acted rationally and soberly until these recent developments.)
As it stands, he has the kids every Sat. evening to Sun. evening, and often an evening or two during the week, but he has been unwilling to commit to anything beyond the Sat./Sun. I have asked him to, so I could work (as a doula), but he says his work comes first and he can't commit to anything in advance.
I am just really confounded by all of this. I am not sure what his point in calling was. He basically has de facto partial custody.
Any advice? Words of wisdom? I am thinking that I need to seek legal advice.
CYS said my house was not deplorable and that they would check into the other claims.