My baby (6 months) gets TONS of attention every time we leave the house. Like drawing a crowd at checkout type of attention. She is the youngest of three, and she, as well as our middle daughter, joined our family through adoption. My middle daughter has a very outgoing and charming personality, yet she is very often not even noticed when out with her sister.
My beautiful middle girl is non white, and the baby is very white. I worry that the constant oohing and ahhing over the baby's blonde hair, blue eyes, and fair skin is reinforcing the idea that those things define the standard of beauty. I worry about what that may be doing to my middle girls idea of herself.
We certainly talk all the time about her beautiful brown skin and black hair, and she has dolls and toys that reflect her looks in our home, as well as friendships with children and adults that look like her. Still, I feel terribly uncomfortable all the public attention her baby sister gets because I feel like each person who tells her sister that her blonde hair and blue eyes are beautiful, they are subtly telling my middle daughter that her brown skin and black hair are not....
How does one handle this? How can I continue to help my girl feel good about herself with this sort of thing happening on a regular basis?