Does everyone want to know the sex these days? Or do some people wait until the birth? - Page 2

[amberskyfire]

We're waiting. I like the surprise! Anyway, I know of a few people that were told the sex absolutely 100% positive by the doctor and it ended up being wrong. One mom (friend of a friend) was really distraught. They bought everything pink and it was a boy and she freaked out in the birth room thinking that baby was hemaphrodite because doctor had assured them it would be a girl. Of course, the doctor immediately reassured her,  but it was still majorly stressful for them. That's kind of a silly anecdote, but it's just one reason of many why I don't want to know. What if I mentally got attached to a baby of one sex and it ended up being another? But then I tend to worry about really silly things.

[BirthIsAwesome]

We're not finding out and we didn't with Ds either :) I have a nice selection of gender neutral newborn and 0-3 month clothes, so that's very nice. We'll have a few months to get girl clothes if it's a girl. I so agree with all the boy/girl clothes crazyness. I often dress Malachi in gender neutral onsies even now, and people actually have assumed he's a girl many times. I love bright stuff for 6 mos. and up, and have some nice bright yellow, orange, and kelly green onsies that are so cute :) 

[StacieM]

Totally understand the "alien" feeling.  I plan to wait for this one.  We've done it before, but we did find out with most our kids.  My SILs don't find out either and neither does one of DH's cousin who just had her 5th child.  So it helps that we are not the only ones in the family who have done it or do it that way.

I just hope I can hold out this time around!  I'm feeling strong boy, but I'm always wrong.  I just hope I don't put myself into a mental frame of mind to be disappointed because I was wrong for the 7th time lol.  Then again, thinking back...I never was disappointed being wrong with the others, so I'm sure things will work out great.  I really just want everything to go smoothly with this pregnancy.

[catters]

We found out with DS and DD.  I was very happy with that and liked the time bonding with him and her and being able to use their name, etc.  This time, DH wants to wait, and I am very unsure about that... I suppose it'll be just as wonderful, but I liked finding out before, but this is our last and I'll defer to him for this.  Although, I will be scrutinizing our NT scan for the "nub angle".  I guessed correctly with both my previous children, and even though it's not 100%, it'll be my cheat.  HA!!  I understand those who want to wait, and I totally get wanting to find out.   To each their own.  :)

[*bejeweled*]

We didn't find out with DD. It was the best surprise I've ever, ever been given!

[Lolafanana]

we won't be finding out either.  Actually, most of my friends are surprised at birth as well. 

With #1, we "knew" she was a girl right from the start so we were asked if we wanted to know, we said "sure, just tell us she's a girl!" and she was.  With #2, we "knew" he was a boy right from the start but wanted the surprise.  So, we waited to the end.  It was so fun to ask, "is it a boy?" to only look under him and see testicles!  i will NEVER forget yelling to my DH, "he has balls! he has balls!!!"  It was the BEST feeling.  There is no way we'll find out this time around either but i am pretty sure that this is a girl :)

[thomatuttle]

With our daughter, we didn't find out. We wanted it to be a surprise, but even if we wanted to find out we couldn't have. In both our ultrasounds (20 week anatomical one and a 30 week to check on placental placement) she kept her legs tightly closed. With her, it was kind of a double surprise because as soon as she came out my mom yells, it's a boy! The whole time i felt like she was a girl though so I lifted her leg and was like that is definitely not a boy! This time around, DH wants to find out, and since it'll be our last I've said ok. We'll see if he can keep the secret though! We normally don't tell anyone but immediate family until after the 12 week mark due to our history of mc, but this time around my husband has told all the coaches that work for him as well as some friends. I really don't know if he could keep the secret or not!

[farmheart]

found out first time, didn't second but totally KNEW it was a boy, and not planning on finding out this time. my reason? I don't trust the safety  of ultrasound.

but I agree people had the strangest reactions "you are so brave" or "good for you" I didn't know it was heroic not to find out LOL

[Janel47]

Isn't that so strange?  Yes, it means having gender neutral clothes around.... but otherwise it really doesn't change anything, does it?  I mean, if people want to give me a badge of honor, they can!
 

Originally Posted by farmheart 

found out first time, didn't second but totally KNEW it was a boy, and not planning on finding out this time. my reason? I don't trust the safety  of ultrasound.

but I agree people had the strangest reactions "you are so brave" or "good for you" I didn't know it was heroic not to find out LOL