I just got a mei tai (Infantino brand--don't hate me! It was $10 on eBay and I wanted to try a mei tai before investing $80) and I love the carrier--it is SO much better on my back than the Baby Bjorn I was using (a hand me down :)). But my 4-month-old DD started screaming when I put her in facing me (she also doesn't really like facing me in the Bjorn but will tolerate it when sleepy and then drift off; this time went beyond fussing, though). I'm wondering if it is spreading her legs TOO wide and maybe was uncomfortable for her?
I put her facing out and she seemed perfectly content. This particular carrier comes with a strap for bunching up the bottom when they're facing out, and while she was happy, I worry about the crotch-dangle aspect, because it seems narrower than the Bjorn when bunched up.
Has anyone else had a DC who hated facing inward but was too young to ride on your back (I have a feeling she won't like that, either)? What did you do? Anyone else have concerns that a carrier may be spreading your kid's legs uncomfortably wide?